We've been discussing permanent BC methods, personally I'm on the side of going for sterilisation whilst H is pushing for vasectomy. He prefers it because the odds of an accidental pregnancy are much better than with female snips (I would choose to abort due to medical complications meaning my own health is at severe risk if I ever consider having another baby, it's sad but I want to be there to see them grow up 
so we currently use 2 methods of short term contraception because I absolutely must not have an accident). He also points out that it's less intrusive (a day off work and a few days rest) for a man, quicker on the NHS list we've briefly asked the GP about last time I was in with DC, etc
BUT... for a variety of reasons I still prefer female sterilisation. Although we're both fit and healthy (ish) now, H has had a couple of health scares in the last year which make me want to avoid him being opened up, prodded and poked, I just got used to it but he's terrified of hospitals/Drs and had to grit his teeth through all the diagnostic stuff before. I feel it's important that he would consider a vasectomy, but I don't want to cause him such huge dread (which i KNOW he will feel) when it's so much easier mentally for me.
So.. has anyone ever been on the fence about whether your H or you has the snip? What tipped the decision?
Also.. time off work might be a problem. I've been reading that women need 1 day for the op as it's generally under Gen An. as well as a week (!) off work to recover. I understand that's a medical guide, so if I do it I would follow it. But it worries me about losing SO MUCH holiday days from work... when others have done it, have you arranged annual leave? Unpaid leave? Or sick leave? I get on with my employers VERY well but what do people normally do with this sort of semi-elective surgery???