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DD could go on 2 guide holidays this summer - should I let her?

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KatyMac · 23/03/2009 21:02

She will pay for half of each herself

One week is a long way away - train & ferry (UK)
The other is locally - but the week of our family holiday

DD & I don't spend that much time together - I work 7:30 until 6pm m-f & I only take 2 weeks off a year - but I am around the house all the time (childminder) & will spend the rest of her holidays with her

I am confused & sitting on the fence because tbh if she wants to spend the week we could spend together at guide camp is that a good thing or not?

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nannynick · 23/03/2009 21:08

The first week isn't an issue is it. It's the second week that is causing you concern.

When you say family holiday, do you mean that you have booked to go away somewhere... or just that you aren't open (working) that week?

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KatyMac · 23/03/2009 21:10

We are closed & we normally go away (UK mainly - france once)

The first week is long way away (some island on the south coast - can't remember the name)

Yes I guess you are right - should I be glad that she is independent or worried that she doesn't want to go on holiday with us?

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MaureenMLove · 23/03/2009 21:12

I would say, let her go on the train/ferry one and not the local one.

Speaking as a Guider I can tell you now, next year is going to be FULL of fun, exciting things for Guiding. It's our centenary year and there'll be twice as much to do!

nannynick · 23/03/2009 21:14

Brownsea Island possibly - the birthplace of Guiding and Scouting.

Tricky one... as a child at around age 12/13, I went on a Choir Trip abroad, then the next week went on Scout Camp. So one trip following another I don't feel is an issue. It is more about her wanting to miss the family holiday.

Why are there two Guide holidays?

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KatyMac · 23/03/2009 21:15

I know - she has just joined the only Guide Choir in the country

Maybe I'm peeved she doesn't want to go on holiday with us

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pinksancerre · 23/03/2009 21:15

Is it Brownsea Island? dd has a guide trip for the May day bank holiday weekend but I have said no because we have planned to go away.

I'm not quite ready to have my family split for hols yet

dd was v stroppy for about 4 hours, now she has forgotton

nannynick · 23/03/2009 21:16

I agree with Maureen - the one further away is worth doing. The local one I'm so sure about... there are bound to be local camps coming up later in the year / early next year - or do Guides not do weekend camps?

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KatyMac · 23/03/2009 21:17

They are 3/4 weeks apart

I don't know why there are 2

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KatyMac · 23/03/2009 21:19

Yes Borwnsea Island

They are both fab holidays tbh - but I guess I am struggling with her not wanting to come with us

I think I am being over precious maybe

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nannynick · 23/03/2009 21:19

What are her friends doing? Are they all doing both - or are her friends parents having a similar dilemma? If say a close friend of her's is going to Brownsea (if that is the place) but not the local one, then that may help persuade her to do the same.

pinksancerre · 23/03/2009 21:23

I also decided I wouldn't feel comfortable being away from home when dd was away somewhere else. I felt the same about dd not wanting to be with us.

MaureenMLove · 23/03/2009 21:24

Probably one is a District event and one is a Division event. Highly unlikely that your DD's unit have organised two camps in the space of 4 weeks. Think of how the Guiders families would feel, when mum annouces that she's spending most of the summer, with a bunch of other peoples kids!

nannynick · 23/03/2009 21:25

Could you and DH change your plans and do something special just for you for your holiday week, thus letting her go on the local Guide camp? That way you may see it more as not being a family holiday... but a special tread for you and DH.

Has DD said she does not want to come on a family holiday this year? Or is it more that she wants to go on the local Guide camp, but it clashes?

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KatyMac · 23/03/2009 21:27

Maureen DD has that anyway

Her being away while I was wouldn't really be an issue because of her grandparents - the camp is only about 20 mins drive from their house

I will speak to a couple of guide mums tomorrow & see what gives

I think I feel neglected

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UniS · 27/03/2009 21:47

If shes keen to go, keen enough to pay for some of the cost- let her do it.
Good that shes confident and wants to do stuff. So long as she understands it is instead of a family holiday and you and rest of family will be going somewhere else with out her.
I used to do multiple guide camps in a year- company, district, division and joint with scouts. I was a guide during the 75th year celebrations- lots on and lots of exciting events.

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