It's annoying DMs are disabled, but I'll try not to be too outing. We're in a situation where DD has been offered a pathway that isn't actually available. This is entirely down to a few calls out of the blue from people high up in the industry who have heard her work and offered long term development support. Three years on... we are where we are with more than a few unintended consequences.
She's primarily a vocalist, mainly focused on pop and turned out to be very gifted at song-writing and composition. She's been lucky to fall into the hands of some amazing people who offered to teach and mentor her and so she's progressed at a rate that is not in-line with her age.
She has no interest whatsoever in anything classical, doesn't do things by the book and due to serious SEN a lot of pathways are not suitable for her. She's also wanted this since she was old enough to express her opinion and is very focused. She's incredibly fortunate that her abilities mean it's not a total pipe dream if she's prepared to work hard enough.
Unfortunately the pop world is unforgiving, especially for women, and if you haven't pretty much made it by 25 then you never will. For that reason, the advice we have been given is that we should continue to accelerate her. DD has a spreadsheet (my genes there!) of every major female artist that sets out their career progression and age at each stage and her own 5 year plan... god help us all!
She's shooting for the moon, so the path she is taking is also one that will give her a solid skill set that she can fall back on if plan A doesn't work out and she will be able to do a number of different things that she would enjoy almost as much.
It's been incredibly stressful and difficult as computer says no a lot and so rules are having to be bent to make it work. It will also need a lot of input going forward from me and the team she works with. I hope in the future I won't regret the choices that I am helping her make!
In terms of MT, it's good to graduate early as a dancer. Graduating at 19 is not necessarily a good plan for a singer as so much depends on how much previously training they have had and physical/vocal maturity. If MT was the main goal then I wouldn't be following this path at all.
From what I know of the classical world, I think you have some soloists who are doing incredibly well at a very young age. Some of DD's teachers (yep classical) were child prodigies - they're still doing well today. But talking to them, they didn't have normal or easy lives because of it... but have no regrets on what they missed of normal life. But being that one child who is good enough and has the emotional/mental capabilities to take that through into a successful adult career is a minuscule percentage of those who are on that pathway.
The majority of those who earn a living as classical musicians will be going through the normal routes at the normal time. And honestly that is probably the best pathway... especially today.
Much as with acting/MT nobody wants to have a child on set that they can't take to the pub, they can't swear in front of, everyone stressing about DBS checks and safeguarding etc. So you may be super talented but you're a pain to employ.
Also the case that people grow up - you spend your childhood being praised for being outside the norm, and then suddenly you're 25 and nobody is going 'wow' anymore. That has to be really hard to deal with. For that reason almost everything DD does is kept firmly behind the scenes.