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Music teachers who come home

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Dancergirl · 07/09/2015 16:31

Dd is just about to start learning the violin and I have been trying to find a teacher. Ideally I would like someone to come home and teach her here as with two other children and lots of running around, it's hard to find a time to fit something else in.

I spoke to a teacher who works like this and we have booked in a trial lesson. My question is - should I be in the house during the entire course of the lesson? Would the teacher expect it for his/her own protection? And is it 'ok' to leave a child with their music teacher?

Dd is 12 btw. I realise this is probably a stupid question and/or I sound a bit paranoid but I was groped by my piano teacher years ago which probably affects me thinking about this clearly Sad

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chelle792 · 07/09/2015 16:33

I'm a tutor. I tell the parent they have to be in the house to protect myself and the child. I also insist on doors being open and not teaching in bedrooms. I've had to cancel a lesson before because a parent hasn't been in when I've arrived

Ihateigglepiggle · 15/09/2015 12:41

Sorry that happened to you.

You should be home when the lesson is taking place. As your DD is 12, you don't need to be right beside her but you should be around - the teacher and your daughter will both be reassured by this.

Once you get to know the teacher you will feel more secure, but should always be around.

Radiodependent · 15/09/2015 12:44

I'm a tutor too and the advice I have had from my Union is that parents should be around and lessons should take place with an open or glass door and never in bedrooms etc. As a parent I think it's useful to be in at least some of the time so you can support practicing. Hope your daughter enjoys her lesson!

OldBeanbagz · 15/09/2015 14:03

My DD has a music teacher who comes to the house and he's never insisted that i'm here. From memory there's only been one occasion that i haven't been here when he arrived (i arrived back during the lesson) but he didn't mention anything.

I'm normally in our home office in the room next to where she's having the lesson with the door open because i like listening to her playing.

dodobookends · 15/09/2015 14:52

When my friend teaches at someone's house he always likes the parent to be at home as well, and if teaching in a separate room, then the door is open with the pupil sitting nearest the door.

absolutelynotfabulous · 15/09/2015 18:31

Never happened to me but it simply wouldn't occur to me to insist on an adult being there!

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