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How long before giving up a teacher?

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OldBeanbagz · 17/11/2013 23:50

DD just doesn't like her new teacher Sad

She only started with him in September but she just doesn't seemed to have clicked with him. He's just so different from her last one.

I haven't actually met him but have spoken to him on the phone a few times (he seems nice on the phone) and he comes very highly recommended by one of my close friends. AND i can see a massive improvement in her playing.

I've asked her to stick with him until after her exam at Easter but what then? Do i just give half a terms' notice or do we stay with him until the end of Y7?

Has she given him enough of a chance? Or maybe she's determined not to like him? What do i do?

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Ferguson · 18/11/2013 17:32

You don't seem to have said WHAT he is teaching! I guess something musical, as there has been an improvement in 'her playing'?

Can she give more detail of WHY she doesn't like him? If it IS music, a voluntary activity and, presumably you are paying for it, I wouldn't have thought she ought to be pressured too much to continue with him. Music, or any extra-curricular activity, should be enjoyable for the student. I taught 'informal' music (ie, no intention of working for exams) for ten years in primary school, on recorder, also some keyboard and percussion, and only children who enjoyed it carried on with it.

Are you obliged to give half a term's notice?

Outsiders can't really resolve this for you, and surely it can only be sorted out by sensible discussion between DD, yourself, and possibly the teacher. At Yr7 she should be old enough to know what she wants, and as it's a male teacher (I was a male TA) maybe he makes her feel uncomfortable.

OldBeanbagz · 19/11/2013 00:23

Sorry i completely forgot to put it is guitar.

I had a long chat with her this evening and i have asked her to TALK to him.

I think her main objection is that he teaches her in a completely different way to her last teacher - stopping her when she makes a mistake rather than constructive criticism at the end of each piece. I don't know whether this comes across as quite negative?

I didn't ask if he made her feel uncomfortable but i will try and bring it up.

She's still enjoying playing the guitar, works hard at it and wants to continue. Just not with him.

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morethanpotatoprints · 19/11/2013 21:02

I think you and her need to determine what you want at the end of the day. No two teachers are the same and just because the method is different doesn't mean it isn't the best way forward.
FWIW my dh would stop rather than have a pupil practice the piece wrong to the end. You may have an exceptional teacher and sometimes they can appear a little bit different from the norm.
I think you have to trust your teacher 100% to know what they are doing, without question. Otherwise you should find a new teacher.

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