If we are to compare Brexit to a divorce do you reckon a deal i.e. May's deal that renders both sides equally aggrieved a good thing?

[VladmirsPoutine]

Disclaimer: I'm a staunch remainer.

But, consider a divorce between a married couple. Both have lawyers, striving away and determined to get the best outcome for their respective clients. Would you not then suggest that a deal such as the one May has carved out which leaves both Leavers and Remainers bitter to be the best of both worlds?

In the eyes of Leavers May's deal is not actually 'leaving' - in the eyes of Remainers May's deal is just a 'reduced for sale' knock-off version of what we already had/have.

I am being slightly facetious as of course I don't equate the nation's biggest constitutional change in decades to a divorce petition based between a couple who most likely grew apart because someone left their cup on the counter and not in the sink.

The party petitioning for divorce, generally has to come up with some pretty esponsibiule solutions for the unti that is being broken up, usually at the petitioning party's extra expense. Freedom from a unit that was previosuly committed to comes at a price and neither parent gets to walk away from the high needs offspring (Northern Ireland).

Northern Ireland is more akin to the petitioning party's pre-existing offspring, that they now want to abandon, as it's just too much hassle.

Rep of Ireland citizen here and I find the potential abandonment of Northern Ireland to be a horrible stark contrast to the (misplaced)loyalty of the Unionists.

Do you really think that that the UK government would risk civil war over this?

Both parties (EU & UK Gov) have committed to no hard border. But as time immemorial proves, the Conservatives can't be trusted to make a cup of tea.

So then the deal ends up with a border elsewhere but literally on the island of Ireland. A border in all but name.

*but not literally on the island of Ireland.

You didn't answer the question: Is a deal that renders both equally aggrieved for the best?

In divorce terms, HMG says it wants a divorce but wishes to remain Friends With Benefits.

I think you have a point OP. But I guess the difference with a divorce is that both parties know from the outset that realistically they won't be able to walk away with everything they want. Whereas with Brexit, some people are still hoping for exactly what they want (whether that's remain / people's vote / no deal etc).