Show me your brexit stockpiles cont...

[SparklySneakers]

A thread for sharing details of our stashes: what we have, what we need, good hiding places and all sorts of hints and tips to help prepare for shortages in the event of a no deal brexit.

Spare rooms used to be normal for a bit, lots of people have them.

Can you put your stuff in the spare room wardrobe or cupboard or under the bed so it is not immediately obvious to cheeky fuckers who may peer in on the way to the loo.

Under the stairs is just extra space being used to take advantage of 3 for 2 offers as I've only one food cupboard in the kitchen.

Or in closed boxes with a blanket thrown over, just some stuff you need to unpack at some point.. ( vague)

I have always saved money by buying offers in bulk. It requires a bit of money to do though.

How do I deal with my brexit voting cf neighbour? She spends £200 getting her hair done every two months but cries poverty as well. She regularly asks for food to feed her kid and this is before brexit so after brexit she'll definitely come knocking. I know she hasn't shopped in advance but ensures she has cash for getting her nails & hair done. Any tips welcome.

I stored my surplus elsewhere and am now running the kitchen cupboards low & keeping it like that. She's like a hawk, she follows me into the kitchen to see what I've got stored. It's not a one off running out of something with her, it's a regular habit of bad money management. She always expects somebody else to bail her out & I'm not good at saying no particularly when there's a kid involved.

Bloody hell two hundred on hair!

How have you not told her to prioritise her kid over her vanity?

There is a reason I have long hair, ok more than one. Hate people fiddling round my head but the cost is too much to justify when kids need feeding and extras.

( I have savings but am trying not to spend more than income unless for something special like holiday or presents which benefit all of us or the children rather than luxuries like expensive haircuts)

I suggest starting to ask her for stuff as she is obviously rich enough to afford hair cuts.

I thonk I'll start asking for stuff and she how she reacts. Her hair is long but is regularly highlighted and is in such bad condition that she has extra conditioning treatments. I've advised her to chop it short and regrow it but she won't listen. It's her sense of entitlement that annoys me as treats are prioritized more than essentials. I've told her plenty of times to keep extra food in case of bad weather etc but it falls on deaf ears.

£200 on hair??!! Fucking hell. I spend £60 a year on my hair cuts. Ok I have long hair and I've not gone grey (there's a few white ones hiding that I pluck out) so it's my natural colour so I don't have to spend on regular colours but even so. And I often put off a hair cut for a few weeks months because I can't afford food and haircuts. Now that I've become a mini-prepper™️ I hopefully won't be in that position again as will make more use of offers and have become more frugal with food and making the most if what we have in rather than going out buying fresh all the time.
I personally love the poverty claimers who say they are skint but two days later go out on the town drinking, eating and paying out for a cab. Or go away for the weekend. Or book a family holiday. When I'm skint I mean I've got about £20 to last a week and have to buy food out of that for the family. It means we can't afford to get the bus home if it's raining. It means making soup or putting interesting combos together from the freezer.

I'd tell her straight that you can't afford to keep giving her food and that she should forgo the hair and nails treatments in order to prioritise feeding her family. And I'd distance myself as much as possible. I feel such contempt for leavers that I couldn't be friendly if I knew. My mum voted leave but she's desperately wishing she hadn't now that I've highlighted what leave actually means. She believed the lies. She 79 now and a widow. She's always voted Tory because her parents did and my dad did. She's not a questioner of anything really, just goes along with what others thought best. That was until I got interested in politics in the last couple of years and made it my mission to get her to be critical of "facts" and to question and wonder and not accept everything she reads in the Fail. In fact she stopped buying it! Result!
I suspect my brother voted leave. He's a Tory through and through, ex army, works for a LA connected to schools so well aware of what austerity has done but still votes bloody Tory. I rarely see him. Good job.
Sister voted leave. Britain first posts sharer on Facebook. We no longer speak.
Families eh?! At least my mum realises how she was misled and wishes she could change it. She'll be badly affected by price rises and any detriment to the NHS which she is very dependent upon. I forgive her as she doesn't know how to go about researching beyond what is on the TV news. Would never have occurred to her that the news lied, the politicians lied. She still thinks "they" won't let anything bad happen but is worried. That blind faith has waivered. She's got extra supplies in and I've got extra bits for her too. She's only got her pension. Food prices rising will mean she buys even less than she does now. Her cupboards seem empty as it is.

Sorry, rambling. It's the codeine

Yep, there is a difference between I can't afford it because I am prioritising something else or can not justify it (usually my sort of can't afford, I have savings but probably need to live on them til pension age due to caring for disabled children and having health conditions myself so spending them now will result in no money in a couple of years, say, as they supplement carers allowance) and can't afford as I literally only have £20 til payday.

I only have savings thanks to the bank of mum and dad as well. I saved a lot as a young adult as I was on temporary contracts and needed to live between contracts, relied on living with parents as well as working all over the county and can't get either mortgage or rent on a temporary contract.

Anyway, you are right about those who claim poverty and spend £100 plus on a night out or other things that are not essential.

And I know I am bloody lucky to have had parents who can help. Without them I would be fucked.

Thankfully ex is not a vindictive ex as well so provides for the children.

£200 on hair and cries poverty for her kids. Stupid cow. Poor kids.

I would suggest asking your neighbour for stuff in return too. Or invite them round for dinner a few times and so you know that you have done your bit to help the child. But some people need the lesson about priorities the hard way.

I mentioned my mum upthread. My mum has plenty of money, and if I rang her up today and said I needed a few hundred quid for a financial crisis she would bail me out I am sure. But she thinks my buying stuff is nuts, and hasn't bothered to do any herself simply because there has been no official advice to do so.

The rose tinted glasses have fallen off my eyes pretty quickly. She's a lone parent so life is challenging but even more so with her sense of entitlement. It's her 'I pay my taxes, this country is shit because it bank rolls people who came in yesterday etc' mentality that is becoming apparent now.

We help each other out with occasional childcare & she's good with my children which makes it hard for me to distance myself.

I can't invite her for dinner because it'll be an expectation & she'll angle for a regular invitation. I didn't see this side before but it's more noticeable now, she'll take what she can and never reciprocates.

She obviously has no idea how little people are actually entitled to. I spent a day with a specialist HV for refugees and traveller families and was amazed at how difficult it was for them to get any help financially. They were entitled to emergency healthcare to start with and that was it. Benefits applications aren't easy to start with let alone when you barely speak English. I couldn't be friends with someone like your friend.

Can you invite the kids over instead and feed them while they're with you? It's a hard one as who would want the kids to suffer because of their feckless mother?

I have short hair. Our hairdresser is mobile and does 3 of us for £20 every 5 weeks. I ignore the grey as I'm not arsed by it enough to do anything.

I've no idea how my parents voted but I know my mum has emailed her (godawful Tory with dubious voting record) MP to ask him to vote for the WA this week. They're OK for money, thankfully. And mum had some online shopping disasters meaning she has quite a few stocks in!

Sparkly, how are you feeling now?

I've dropped my codeine right down to 15mg per day from 24mg immediately post-op. It sends you wappy, doesn't it?

240, not 24!

Unfortunately her child (only one dc) is a chip off the old block. I do very little for her now compared to before now that I'm wise to her ways. We used to have them over for a playdate before now we play outside with a mug of coffee in hand weather permitting.

@NoWordForFluffy I'm not too bad thanks. I have chronic pain and take 120-150mg dihydrocodeine a day. It's just at night time when I take 60mg and I'm tired that it makes me wax lyrical

Oh goodness!

I was taking 60mg a time and was useless straight after taking them! 🙈

I can't imagine being on them long term, so I feel for you.

60mg is just for bedtime as would be too sleepy to function. I found codeine phosphate made me feel worse than the dihydrocodeine even though the dihydrocodeine is stronger.

I just did my final stockpile Ocado order. I was adding extra bits regularly but it got too expensive (oh how I wish this HAD NEVER HAPPENED) but I’ve just got another dose of The Fear so did a final order all in one.