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Do you discuss Brexit with friends or avoid the subject completely?

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BigSandyBalls2015 · 05/01/2019 13:15

Just curious.

We're out for dinner tonight with two other couples - I'll be the only remainer amongst the six of us …… could be an interesting night, esp with drinks flowing.

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ShalomJackie · 05/01/2019 13:18

Fortunately living in Cambridge which was a 75% remain area I don't think I have ever been in that situation!! If I was it would be avoid, avoid, avoid!

lalalonglegs · 05/01/2019 13:30

We discuss it a lot but, like Jackie, I'm in a Remain bubble and it's quite hard to find people who are passionate leavers. The few leavers I encounter nowadays seem a bit sheepish about it, want to avoid any discussion and are busy distancing themselves from this shitshow.

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BigSandyBalls2015 · 05/01/2019 14:13

I know at least 2 of the friends going tonight still think they made the right decision Shock

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Lottapianos · 05/01/2019 14:18

I talk to fellow Remainers but I avoid the subject like the plague with a Leaver friend. She votes Tory and adores Boris Johnson so I tend to avoid politics in general when around her Hmm

cosytoaster · 05/01/2019 14:27

Discuss it quite a lot . I'm a remainer, as are most of my friends but I do have a couple of friends who voted to leave. Our discussions have always been very civil; as time has gone on both of them have come to regret the way they voted.

Greenteandchives · 05/01/2019 14:35

I think it needs to be considered whether any discussion around the topic would be conducted in a civilised and respectful manner. People are allowed to form their own opinions, you know.
Often people who hold what might be seen as controversial views to some will keep them to themselves, hence surprising election results. They know they may be verbally attacked in an unpleasant and aggressive manner for their opposing views.

cosytoaster · 05/01/2019 15:46

I agree Green - people should be able to express their views and have them taken seriously and discussed sensibly - there's too much arguing and not enough civilised debate when it comes to serious issues. The way MPs behave in parliament doesn't exactly help.

MeganBacon · 05/01/2019 15:53

Yes we discuss it continually, it was quite nice to have a bit of a break from it over Christmas. I have found it fascinating to understand how different people were swayed.

bellinisurge · 05/01/2019 16:11

I know who I can discuss it with and who I can't or shouldn't. My dh starts to feel a knot in his stomach if we discuss it too much.

Ta1kinPeace · 05/01/2019 17:38

99% of my social circle and 85% of my family voted remain
50% of my work contacts voted leave
I keep my ranting to MN Grin

madmum5811 · 05/01/2019 17:42

Avoid it now completely in our circle, everyone is sick to death of it.

Quietrebel · 05/01/2019 17:46

I learned very quickly that it was a bad idea to be too open about the subject. There was one instance (only one) when I broke my own rule not to talk about politics in the office. A friend of mine had forwarded a link to the first petition requesting a new ref and I forwarded it on to the team. I was careful to say 'for those interested' but I had the visit of an irate colleague about 5 min later who lectured me about how undemocratic it was.... I kept well out of it from that point on. Also found out the boss had voted leave! Lesson learned...

ilovesooty · 05/01/2019 17:46

Virtually everyone I work with voted remain and have been quite forthright about it. Most friends I've every discussed it with voted remain too.
I've no intention of ever discussing it with my sister who I'm almost certain voted leave. I know my brother in law did.

Theunreasonableone · 05/01/2019 17:52

Very bizarre that you would want to risk an argument ruining an enjoyable evening out by discussing an obviously emotive subject. Do you often look for arguments and conflict?

Catsandbootsandbootsandcats · 05/01/2019 17:53

I haven't discussed it with my best friend since she told me she was voting leave because liked Boris Johnson and thought he was funny. Hmm

One of my relatives got really arsey with a younger relative who was upset about the leave vote. It nearly caused a family rift! Shock (said family member is a queen bitch though so I would have been glad to have been rid of her if it were me!)

Most of my other friends voted remain, so we do occasionally talk about it.

SwedishEdith · 05/01/2019 17:53

Discuss it. Have to discuss it at work as it's directly impacted.

Ta1kinPeace · 05/01/2019 17:55

TBH I discuss it with the vast majority of my clients as its part of my job as their business adviser

I've found forms of words that allow me to discuss it even with rabid leavers without swearing until I get to my car

Sandsnake · 05/01/2019 18:15

I am in a massive Remain bubble - family, friends and work. We sometimes discuss it, but it’s not really a debate as we all agree! There are a couple of Leavers in the extended family and that got quite nasty (not from me) following the referendum and so it is definitely not discussed with them.

catlovingdoctor · 05/01/2019 18:19

I don't like discussing it, as I tend to find people become incredibly rude about the fact I think and voted differently to them.

ISdads · 05/01/2019 18:22

They wouldn't be my friends (any more) and I wouldn't socialise with them, so ... easy.

Seniorschoolmum · 05/01/2019 18:23

You are all entitled to your individual views. Just agree to disagree, and move on.

ISdads · 05/01/2019 18:24

In fact, it does come up in conversation sometimes with new colleagues etc but I would be astounded to meet anyone who voted leave in a professional or friend context. As acquaintances, it's more common,and I don't mention it unless they do.

Lookingforadvice123 · 05/01/2019 18:28

Not one of my own friends or family voted leave so I'm in a complete remain bubble. DH's grandmother voted to leave, as did his cousin's husband, and that got quite heated the day after the result came out on Facebook (cousin's husband. His grandma isn't on Facebook!). No one else I know.

I do find political discussions can get uncomfortable though. Some of my university friends vote Tory whilst I'm a leftie, and I do find it uncomfortable as everyone thinks their opinion is correct (obviously) so I prefer not to discuss.

AdoraBell · 05/01/2019 18:31

I CBA discussing it.

Lottapianos · 05/01/2019 21:28

'I haven't discussed it with my best friend since she told me she was voting leave because liked Boris Johnson and thought he was funny. hmm'

Makes you sick, doesn't it? My Leaver friend (who also devours the Mail every day) said she was voting Leave as a protest vote, which is one of the most stupid things I've ever heard and still makes me angry, so I avoid the whole topic with her

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