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Sarcasm, condescension, mischaracterisation

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smashedinductionhob · 30/03/2017 10:30

I have been spending time on the Leave EU facebook page to try to see the other person's point of view.

I am picking up that there is a really strong reaction to being condescended to, having your words used against you, rhetorical questions, etc.

So my question to those celebrating A50: when people debate with you, how does the style of the debate make you feel/act? Does it make you rethink you views or does it harden them?

Thanks.

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smashedinductionhob · 03/04/2017 08:18

"The economy benefits in that things get done cheaply and the wheel goes round. But picking, cleaning, caring and factor work are low-paid and the workers' living expenses are subsidised from the public purse as explained above."

Usually people come back saying "but British people don't want those jobs....." ........ and that there is a desperate need for the jobs to be done, especially caring. Thoughts?

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howabout · 03/04/2017 09:07

smashed with fair wages and conditions and an end to the need to be welfare dependent in FT jobs there will be plenty of UK takers for these jobs as there always was up till 2004.

Also even the BoE points out that cheap labour from the EU has been holding back investment in labour saving productivity advances in the UK. Increasing productivity makes for fewer, less labour intensive, better paid jobs.

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Petronius16 · 03/04/2017 09:35

Housing for seasonal workers is usually provided by the employer, or is where we live in the UK.

A farmer recently interviewed on Country File (?) said what he wanted was a worker who could last a day in the fields and only immigrants would do that.

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lavenderandrose · 03/04/2017 10:01

Carers have had appalling changes made to the basic pay and conditions of their work.

If people refused to do it, perhaps the pay and conditions might change.

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lavenderandrose · 03/04/2017 10:07

I wonder what the farmer was offering in pay to a worker who could last a day in the fields?

I don't know. I genuinely have no idea.

I DO know that twenty years ago as a domicilary carer, you worked for the council with a contract. You had a minimum of one hour per service user.

I know that now, a domicilary carer will work for an agency on a zero hour contract. Calls are often fifteen minutes. Carers are not paid between calls. Most are minimum wage. That means a carer has to go to four people to get £7.50 as it is now. Less than £2 per visit.

Calls are often spread out and, at peak points of the day (another problem linked to high population) can spend what amounts to unpaid hours in traffic.

Why should we accept this? Why should we say, oh, well people who don't want to do that are just lazy, that's why we need migrants. Why don't we say, no WONDER people don't want to work for nothing, why should our elderly and disabled accept so little, let's change the working conditions?

It actually shocks me that 'the migrant who will work for barely anything, and accept awful conditions, so how can we possibly do without them'passes as a left wing view. Why aren't Labour out in force on zero hours and no enhanced pay for weekends and after hours and conditions like the one I've described above?

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howabout · 03/04/2017 10:50

lavender the tragedy is that the Labour Party could easily demonstrate that this policy is practically costless. You pay out more in social care but considerably less in benefits and you save money in the NHS.

In Scotland there is free personal care for the elderly and all council employees and subcontractors are paid at the Scottish living wage, which is more than £1 per hour above the new NMW. The increase to the NMW is consequently having very little effect on council budgets in Scotland. Most NHS and care worker roles in Scotland are staffed by Scots. Most of the 100k or so low paid EU migrant workers in Scotland work in the hospitality sector - I posted a Scottish government analysis on the WM thread.

For comparison 80% of personal care services in England are council or NHS funded. Scotland has a slightly worse age demographic, although all the deep fried Mars bars mean we tend to die younger but need social care younger.

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Carolinesbeanies · 03/04/2017 10:54

.... not to mention the return of the sweatshops and slum landlords stacking tenants 10 high.

OP.

"Could you please explain what you mean by "baiting?"

Sure . You are simply attempting to re-ignite debate surrounding key areas you feel strongly about regards the referendum vote, to illicit a response, for the sole purpose of then overlaying your own biased assumptions about individual voters.

I do however, appreciate that you may be wishing to find more socially acceptable ways to discuss the whole issue, but given the link youve provided, its still with a view of 'winning the argument'.

The argument is done. The vote was pretty much an intransigent vote. It was uncompromising. It was a simple in or out.
Is there indeed any point in holding any debate now? No.
The votes been held. There was plenty of debate prior to the vote, there is absolutely no purpose or benefit to be gained from debating the key issues now.

Tell me, are you prepared to change your mind about brexit? If you are, then I apologise. Welcome to the dark side 😀

What I think you are looking at, are what Id call grievances claimed by the vocal remain protesters.

So let me look at those perceived greivances, and in fact, what the leave vote wasnt.

The message from the intransigent remain protester, is loud and clear, and continues. There is a persistent contempt for the intelligence and knowledge of the 'leave voter'. Leave voters are, in the protesters' view, too ignorant and morally corrupt (racist, bigotted?) to vote on such important matters. These matters should of course be decided by, the intelligent informed section of society. The remain voter.

The vote itself was either, based on campaign lies (because ignorant leave voters woke up one morning suddenly believing everything a politician tells them despite all of us living for decades with manifesto u-turns, persistant failures to deliver pre election promises etc etc) or, was some sort of misguided 'protest' vote.
It was neither. It was a vote on our continued membership of the EU. To say, we dont understand what our membership entails, is condescending in the extreme. Weve lived within the EU for decades now, we know exactly what EU membership means.

Another apparent grievance, is the remain protestors persistance that the vote was an economic vote of such gravity, that only those clever people who understood the economic subtleties and trade agreements surrounding our EU membership, should have been allowed to vote. It wasnt.

Trade deals will always be negotiated (as the US is now demonstrating since ripping up the TTIP, though I dont think Merkel had a particularly good trip last week 😀) and economics will always ebb and flo, fluctuate, be impacted by external forces, availability and demand etc. The EU single market is no different.
Indeed, I would say, that there are many many leave voters who quite simply wished to return to the trading partnership the EU was initially intended to be.
However, the EU utterly refuse to consider reverting to a trade only relationship. That was the choice placed before us. All or nothing. We voted nothing.
To continually blame the leave voter for not providing some middle ground is wholly inaccurate. To blame the brexit negotiators or campaigners for not securing some form of trading relationship inadvance, is wholly inaccurate. Brexit negotiators, our government, us, we were all given just 2 choices by the EU. All or nothing.

The EU referendum was squarely about who governs us and who makes our laws. It was about national sovereignty.

We voted to join the EU (then common market) as a trading alliance. At no point since that time, have we been asked if we'd like to have a political alliance with Europe. If wed like to live under european law.
Weve never ever been asked. Until now.
The UK referendum squarely answered that question. Its no. No to a political alliance and being ruled from Brussels.

The argument that 'some EU laws are great for us' utterly ignores the fundamental question. We voted on the fundamental question, not a thousand points of minutia that the EU were letting us vote individually on. They werent. The EU demanded all or nothing.

As a sovereign state, we are more than capable of incorporating 'good laws'. Thats the whole point. The people of a nation should indeed decide their own governance, not some club in Brussels.

And then theres migration. An open door policy that again was forced on us by the EU, with no reference or consideration to the UK citizens. David Cameron went to Brussels and told them this was a deal breaker. The estimated numbers promised by Brussels were indeed tenfold that anticipated.
The remainers werent protesting then at DCs mission to Brussels, indeed Clegg and all, were/are in total agreement. We must have control of our borders he demanded. The EU sent him packing.

So why are remainers protesting now? The EU demanded an all or nothing position regards migrants. All or nothing. How dare they blame leave voters, or even the government, for not providing some middle option. The dictatorship that is the EU, demanded all or nothing.

What has been eye opening, is I hadnt realised how many people who lived here, actually despise the UK. Theyre 'ashamed' to be british. They refuse to place any responsibility on the EUs rigid 'all or nothing' position, and place it squarely on some mythical knuckle dragging ignorant right wing white nazi racist theyve seen in a cartoon. They persist in slating UK democracy, claiming "but the 'population' majority didnt vote to leave!" ....(though Scotland of course was an absolutely legitimate majority remain vote win 🙄.

I do think OP, you should look at remainers grievances and the psyche of those who point blank refuse to accept the result.
But theres my take on it. Scream, bawl, holler at Brussels not London.

I am hugely sympathetic to the plight of those caught in limbo over this. Those who have made homes and planned futures in adoptive countries. The uncertainty over NI, Gibralta etc. But the EU were rigid. All or nothing. It is not only utterly misguided to blame the current UK government for this predicament, but shameless political point scoring from parliamentary members who should know better.
Start protesting in Brussels, not London.

We only had 2 choices, but at least the UK were finally given the choice. The rest of europe doesnt appear to be that lucky. No further referendums so far.

Perhaps the people of a european nation are indeed, too stupid to be asked? Thats EU democracy for you.

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lavenderandrose · 03/04/2017 11:04

Caroline

Excellent post.

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EnjoyYourVegetables · 03/04/2017 11:12

Carolinesbeanies: I saute your indefatigability.

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EnjoyYourVegetables · 03/04/2017 11:16

Salute, even!

Thanks anyway. From a poor typist..

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howabout · 03/04/2017 11:18

For anyone who is in any doubt about the Remain supporting policies of GO and DC which TM and PH are now straight jacketed into due to the 2015 Tory Manifesto. Bring on the GE and think again.

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smashedinductionhob · 03/04/2017 11:43

Yes, I am prepared to change my mind. Of course I am. I am, like everyone, worried about the future but hoping it will be ok.

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BeBeatrix · 03/04/2017 11:53

IRL I've generally had positive experiences with people who want to actually discuss the issues, and are prepared to listen as well as to express.

Those discussions have nearly all been with friends who voted Remain. A lot of them have started out with me responding to a very negative generalization about Leave Voters by saying that I voted Leave. They're generally incredulous, but ask why, and listen to the reasons.

We have then usually ended up with a very positive discussion, after which they tend to admit that they can see that there are logical and good arguments for leaving, although they all still remained very firmly in the Remain camp.

I've never been trying to 'convert' people to Leave in those conversations, but I am generally keen to fight the prejudice that Leavers are thick racists, who voted out of ignorance and prejudice.

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Carolinesbeanies · 03/04/2017 12:03

indefatigability.... I had to google that!! 😀

Can I just clarify, before the obvious, of course there are right wing knuckle dragging nazis out there. Im referring to the mythical 17 million strong army of them. It doesnt exist. Just normal, day to day british people, those just as kind and compassionate as the next man, who had the right to vote as their concience permitted.

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InfiniteSheldon · 03/04/2017 12:09

Great post Caroline

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Dannythechampion · 03/04/2017 12:12

Delurks, right, I've just read Caroline's post and really feel that there must be some recourse to it.

"Is there indeed any point in holding any debate now? No. "

Highly hypocritical, the leave side debated, and got influence over EU policy for 41 years because they made their voices heard.

"No to a political alliance and being ruled from Brussels."

We were never ruled from Brussles, never have been, we were part of a union that made decisions together, and in most cases were in British political interests.

"An open door policy that again was forced on us by the EU, with no reference or consideration to the UK citizens. David Cameron went to Brussels and told them this was a deal breaker. The estimated numbers promised by Brussels were indeed tenfold that anticipated."

The Labour government didn't apply the controls that we could have used, like other countries did, and it was them that "estimated" the numbers, nothing to do with Brussels.

"The EU demanded an all or nothing position regards migrants. All or nothing. How dare they blame leave voters, or even the government, for not providing some middle option. The dictatorship that is the EU, demanded all or nothing."

Again, factually incorrect. The EU is not a "dictatorship" in fact the EU gave Cameron pretty much all he wanted, even allowing changes to benefits for immigrants etc, the only one he didn't get was the emergency break, which as spelled out still they consider to be a fundamental part of the single market.

Now see, you complain that people talk down to leavers, yet you've posted a factually incorrect rant filled with emotive language in order to try to demonstrate why you're position is correct and why remainers are wrong. Why do you think people form these opinions of some leavers when you desperately try to fudge the actual facts to fit the narrative?

Quite frankly much of your post is incorrect, inflammatory, demonstrates poor understanding of the issues or actually what happened.

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time4chocolate · 03/04/2017 13:24

Great post Caroline 👍👍

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AnotherRandomMale · 03/04/2017 13:38

I was a leave voter, and have zero regrets about the way I voted. I buried my Mum on the day of the vote and still dragged myself to a polling booth because it was a once in a generation or more sort of vote, far more important than any general election.

My only purpose in engaging Remain voters in any debate afterwards was to challenge some of the more outrageous slurs on leave voters by laying out my own rationale for wanting the UK out in order to demonstrate that I am not insular, racist or stupid. My line of reasoning pursuaded 3 wavering voters to vote leave, and I am pleased to have done so.

9 months down the line I have lost interest in the debate. Remain voters who wish to persist in finding a thousand reasons to complain, berate and belittle us, and those who wish to continue to protest are perfectly entitled to do so, but I am also perfectly entitled to ignore them and stop providing an audience.

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howabout · 03/04/2017 13:54

I agree with Caroline

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Dannythechampion · 03/04/2017 14:55

"The EU referendum was squarely about who governs us and who makes our laws. It was about national sovereignty. "

Would that be the Sovereignty the Brexit Bill white paper said we never lost?

"How dare they blame leave voters, or even the government, for not providing some middle option. The dictatorship that is the EU, demanded all or nothing."

Prior to the vote many other options were laid out other than hard brexit, Many leaver campaigners even said we wouldn't be leaving the single market. Norway, Switzerland were also presented as options that we could take. The leave vote was far from overwhelming, and there are lots of options for the government, they don't have to persue a hard leave. The vote was in or out not how we leave or what deal we get next. Its fine to demand why .

The EU by the way didn't demand anything, Cameron proposed the referendum. We

Actually all of your post is utter inaccurate and hyperbolic.

You can agree with it if you like, but when you make such ridiculous claims as you have, you don't do leavers any favours.

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Dannythechampion · 03/04/2017 15:14

"At no point since that time, have we been asked if we'd like to have a political alliance with Europe. If wed like to live under european law. "

But we did elect parties that had working closely within the European Union and its predecessors as key manifesto pledges.

"Thats the whole point. The people of a nation should indeed decide their own governance, not some club in Brussels."

Again an inaccurate explanations of the way the EU works. We do decide our own governance, parliament never lost sovereignty remember, its in the bill.

Its fun pulling a post that is so factually inaccurate apart, should have registered sooner. Simply none of what you have stated as reasons for leaving the EU are actually accurate.

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Bolshybookworm · 03/04/2017 15:16

Again, I see a lot of boiling down complex situations so that you can blame it on a single problem. The Tory government began their squeeze on care for the elderly in the late 80s/early 90s (I know as I come from a family of social workers). Funding has been pulled from this area for the last 30 years. This, coupled with an ageing population requiring increased care is what drives down wages- we simply cannot sustain the level of care needed at the wages required. Well, we could if we increased tax but the British public won't vote for it. so you're in a catch22- you need more care but no one wants to pay for it.

How happy will the average Brexit voter be to pay for the tax rises needed for what they want?

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Fawful · 03/04/2017 15:38

TM and PH are now straight jacketed into due to the 2015 Tory Manifesto
Is that a joke? They found it easy enough to abandon their manifesto commitment to the single market, when more people voted for it in the EU ref than had voted for the Conservatives in 2015...

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Dannythechampion · 03/04/2017 15:44

TM and PH aren't straight jacketed into anything.

They have made a choice to retain the benefits cuts, the manifesto commitment to running a budget surplus by the end of the parliament has already been abandoned.

They only changed their minds on the NIC contributions because the 1922 committee said it wouldn't fly with traditional Tory voters and the Mail screamed about it. The manifesto commitment was an easy excuse for the policy U turn, after all it would have already been discussed at the highest levels before being approved as government policy.

Yet more factually incorrect rubbish.

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howabout · 03/04/2017 15:44

Bolshy I agree with you as I am old enough to remember the social care which was freely available to my grandparents in the 80s. As I pointed out above this level of support IS available in Scotland which operates under the same UK budget as the rest of the country - (Barnett is not the golden egg laying goose some suggest).

Scotland also has half the HB bill per head of London and the South East and fully mitigates the bedroom tax. There has been no property price boom in Scotland for the last 10 years. There has been very little population increase through migration and more housing per head has been built.

FWIW I have surveyed my Tory voting pensioner friends. They do not have strong objections to extending NI to pensions income paid out in retirement if it is used to fund social care. A change like this alone would raise billions. Frank Field's website has relevant research on the issue.

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