Keep finding confirmation for your bias, that's fine.
The fact is that your "facts" aren't correct.
Seriously can't be bothered to correct the Irish ref stuff, that's been done many times. Wasn't just Ireland that caused the reform to the treaty, and the Irish voted far more overwhelmingly for the treat in the second ref than against in the first.
Cameron Vetoed the EU bailout in 2011 because he didn't think the UK should have to pay for it, so therefore the EU agreed that the UK and other EU countries which are not in the eurozone, should not be part of any future eurozone bailouts.
We've only participated in 2 bailouts for 2 EU countries:
€3bn for Ireland in November 2010 and €3.5bn for Portugal in May 2011
After that we haven't participated, so the veto was respected and the rules changed. Showing our influence.
The UK has to agree to give up powers to the EU, this is seemingly something you don't understand.
You'll also probably find that there will be savings to be made by centralising current operations ( you know there are current joint operations and have been for over 20 odd years right?).
Still, my research is more further than yours, got your antennae pointing the right way?