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Unplanned pregnancy

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Millymoo198 · 13/06/2021 07:40

I'm 32 weeks pregnant with a little girl.
Between me and my partner we have 6 children, 4 are mine and 2 his that he sees every other week. Since I found out I was pregnant he wanted me to have a termination but I simply couldn't. Now he says he wants to stay with me but is distant, refuses to tell people about the baby, hasnt helped me buy a thing and even refuses to touch my bump. Its causing me so much stress. I'm worried about going into labour and being alone or when shes born he wont acknowledge her as he still hasnt told anyone about the pregnancy. I'm lost and don't know what to do 💔

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Millymoo198 · 14/06/2021 00:21

I've have spoken to him today and said it's either 100% commitment or nothing. Hes got a few days to think it over... 🤷‍♀️

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MarshmallowAra · 22/06/2021 09:12

He comes in, showers here, eats food here, brings his kids here to stay and gives me nothing. Hes not contributed anything towards buying baby stuff.

Mate, he was showing you exactly what he's like before you fell pregnant. He's a user.

I've seen a lot of women on here say this about their divorced/separated partners ... Their relationship broken down (usually sue to them, though they'd be we be honest about it) a d they just move into another woman to provide domestic "duties" for them and their kids when they have them. Why would they cook for and entertain their own kids when they can find a woman to do it, why getting sex too.

He's a user, it sounds like it was never a good, fair relationship .. it's easy not to see that. His reaction now you've fallen pregnant totally reinforces that he's not a decent, good guy.

He just wanted a cushy number and he's raging he's been "caught" with a child with you. It sounds like he wanted a termination and he doesn't want anything to do with it.

I'd stop doing anything for him or sleeping with him, any decent man would e stepped up, paid for stuff, and made arrangements to combine home etc. He's not doing any of that and will leave you with a fifth child to look after pretty much on your own.

I'd be interested to know the true story as to why his relationship broke down with his kids mother.

MarshmallowAra · 22/06/2021 09:15

Sorry about the typos.

You better get a cm claim in against him as soon as your child is born because that's all you're guaranteed to get off him.

MarshmallowAra · 22/06/2021 09:21

@Millymoo198

I've have spoken to him today and said it's either 100% commitment or nothing. Hes got a few days to think it over... 🤷‍♀️
I have a feeling he'll not want to tarnish his image to himself and others by saying what he truly wants to; "you're on your own" and will make compromising noises ... But the reality will continue to be resentful, half arsed, uncommitted behaviour.
Millymoo198 · 08/07/2021 07:48

Well 36 weeks and looks like I am most definitely alone in this as he finally walked out. I feel like I've had a weight lifted from my shoulders because I'm not longer waiting for that moment but at the same time heart broken to be completely let down yet again x

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