My boyfriend and I have been together a while now. We live about an hour away from each other. He lives in his own home and is next door to his sister, her husband (BIL) and 3 kids. His sister has a key to BF’s house for emergencies.
BIL has a history of DV and coercive behaviour. Social services have been involved as BIL assaulted his daughter. My BF is visited regularly by his sister who says how the BIL is giving away money to another woman and talks to the other woman daily. He’s taking £ from their joint account which is meant for bills.
having left an emotionally absuvie relationship myself, I know how it feels. Apparently his sister has had enough and wants the BIL to leave but hasn’t done anything. I have suggested we get an occupation order for her and BF has even emauggetsed he and his mates will go over to the house and tellBIL to leave. He doesn’t work as he’s got health issues relating to his weight. Bf and BIL had a big row last year where BIL threatened my BF and my BF said he was no longer welcome in his house. BIL constantly talks about money and how hard done by he is. He spends most of the remaining joint account money on takeaways
anyways the sister has got someone into their house to fit a new bathroom. They are without a shower, so one my BF’s nieces asked if she could come over and use the shower. She was respectful and didn’t take too long. BF was out at work today and
BF text to say that the BIL had let himself into BF’s house to have a shower, making a mess in the bathroom and not asking. What advice do people have? I feel for my bf as the BIL took the Micky and went in without consent?