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Ethical dilemmas

Fair Inheritance

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Toffeelover · 29/06/2024 19:23

My father owned a house worth £500k approx that passed to my step mother on his death.
She’s in a care home, the house is rented to cover her care.
I have 4 siblings, so, assume £100k each when DSM passes.
The dilema is, my niece has asked me if I’d be happy with her and bf living there when DSM passes & eventually buying it.
She is the only other grandchild,( I have 3 DS’s.)
Immediately I said “yes in principle as I’d love it to stay in the family but I have no real idea of the will/finances etc.”
But I’ve since found out:
I sibling said “I want you to buy me out”
2 siblings said “you take it, I don’t need anything” (they are both on benefits and a large sum would compromise that)
1 sibling said “actually I’d like to live there” (but lives on a minimum wage so I don’t know how she’d manage to finance it.
And the executor said “all children/ grandchildren need to be considered” because the reality is the house is very small on a very large plot of land and could be a great investment potential, so he’s considering the needs of my children. However, I will leave my children ££ of their own.

If you look at it on a purely “needs based” approach, my sister should have first dibs, as she is 50, still renting and on a minimum wage, but my niece will have more chance of raising money to buy us out.

Should I just stay out of it & let them figure it out?

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Toffeelover · 30/06/2024 10:23

Gazelda · 29/06/2024 19:33

The fair, and right thing to do is to wait until the SM has passed and then you get to see her will. The will should then be followed to the letter.

I agree, my DSM has been in a care home for 5 years and is very well looked after. She may live for many more years.
I've never countenanced any discussion of the inheritance before as it’s all highly speculative.
This whole conversation about it has made me incredibly uneasy and I’m going to back away from it now.
I am a bit worried it will all get a bit toxic when the times comes, but thank you all for your advice.

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