Should I visit dying granny?

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I visited my granny at Easter and said my goodbyes to her as she has not got long left. She has declined in health significantly since then and I have been informed that she will not last long now. Should I go and see her again even though I know it will be distressing for me? She is barely conscious as she is on heavy medication. Would it be better to remember her how she was when I last saw her?

Personally I'd go to see her if I were you, but depends how you feel about it.

In a similar situation I couldn’t get to visit but a family member there held up the phone to her ear so I could say goodbye. I’m very grateful for that, I don’t know if she heard but at least I feel like I was there in some way. Would that be a middle option?

My Nanna died in February, slightly different situation as she had a funny turn, went into hospital fairly ok then deteriorated rapidly and died 3 days later; but I wish I hadn't gone to see her the day before she died as that's all I can remember. But obviously I don't know how I would feel if I hadn't gone.

Go. It's not about you it's about her. You are bloody selfish to even ask.

I saw my granny regularly until she died. I don't enjoy the last visits but she did. She deserved me to be there until the end

That’s quite harsh fridaynight OP says her gran is barely conscious so may not even be aware if OP visits or not.

My granny was fiercely proud and wouldn’t have wanted me to see and remember her in that state especially as she wouldn’t even have been aware of it. Can’t speak for the OP’s gran of course but it certainly isn’t as black and white as you suggest.

Hi all, I’ve decided to go first thing tomorrow, it’s the right thing to do. Thanks for helping me decide. She probably won’t know I’m there but she may sense it.

The last sense to go is hearing. Talk to her, tell her that you love her and that you miss her, hold her hand. Of course you wont ever know if she hears you but it will give you comfort