I found out just before Christmas I was pregnant. It was not planned, as we didn't think we could conceive given issues both sides re fertility.
26 August hubby left for work (Royal Marine). He returned late November. We had sex pretty much every day of that week before he deployed. My periods are not regular.(some months nothing, other months can last 3 weeks).
Based on the limited info and check, was told could be anywhere between 18 to 20 weeks.
Essentially, she was insinuating H is not father. Compounded with her general behaviour, It devastated me.
She as a person is hugely manipulative. Twists information, makes accusations, lies. She is just toxic and interfering. Ridiculous at times. I work from home... apparently I need to get off my arse and get a 'real job'. Not sure how my fake income pays for expenses, but hey - can't please everyone. I have so many stories of her behaviour I'd probably crash the site if I posted it all. One of my favourites was her literally turning the lights off, while I was reading a book and having a cup of tea. Essentially telling a 38 year old it's bed time. But previous evening she was on the gin and they were playing games and chatting until 4am. I think she hates me as she has never been able to solicit a reaction from me. I do genuinely believe that. A few months prior to switching lights off incident, H's brother relationship ended, on grounds that MiL is too involved.
I'm not going to lie and say everything with me and H are perfect. It's not. We were working on things within our marriage. Conceiving was difficult, his job with minimal contact for longer periods... we had a few bits to work through. But we took action and started counselling together.
My last straw was over Christmas. I had enough. She was threatening to call my mother re. pregnancy (in the middle of the night). She just went bloody loopy...
In the end it was squashed when she messaged my father, thinking she was 'telling on me'. What she got was a response saying we H and myself are married adults, and quite capable of sorting private matters. That even if he didn't know it was not her news to tell. That H is the father, and should he want, I would happily have a paternity test.
Paternity is definitely not an issue. I have not been intimate with anyone outside my husband for the last 7 years.
What was devastating is that she planted that doubt, and my husband didn't immediately shut it down. He knows me. I would never be unfaithful. That no matter what we go through there is a lot of love and we have never questioned one another on things like this.
I don't know if the timelines are wrong or right. I am really confused with everything going on right now. Is there a possibility that they made a mistake, or something has been misinterpreted. I hope it can clear up soon so I can shut her down on that. H came to his senses after a week and we are now dealing with this on top of the other stuff.
I'm just so angry and sad that she took something beautiful and made it ugly. That looking back I'm going to remember all the hurt and issues it caused. Including H questioning if he wants a divorce.
We are getting ok now... but this is something I think will take a very long time to resolve for all parties.
Anyone around that knows or has gone through a similar thing on dates?
Would I be an aHole to say I don't want her in my life and our child's life?