"Adult baby" has a baby now - WWYD?

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A long time ago, I knew someone who confided in me that he had a thing for pretending to be a baby and wearing nappies. He thought it was a rare but acceptable fetish - just embarrassing.

Needless to say, I didn't see it the same way and we are no longer in touch.

Today I discovered he is now the father of a little one.

I feel very conflicted. Does his partner know about his paraphilia? Has he sought therapy to address it?

If my partner was sexually attracted to infancy, nurseries, baby things, etc. -- I would want to know about that, ideally, before we had a child together. Wouldn't you?

Mumsnetters, what would you do in this situation?

You don't know he absolutely wouldn't.

1. Maids do get raped and assaulted by employers and their family
2. Children, the younger they are, are less likely to tell. A vulnerable maid is also less likely to report. The more difficult for the victim to speak up the more vulnerable they are to abuse.

So your logic doesn't apply because children are more vulnerable than a maid, maids do get abused and you absolutely can't tell with certainty that someone will never do something.

I wouldn't be in a relationship with someone like this man, I think his fetish is disgusting and I wouldn't want to have him near children. I would like to know from a trusted source with evidence (ie not an online anon tip but someone with a verifiable relationship) to let me know.
I do think though that there will be signs of perversion when you sleep or spend enough time with a guy who has disgusting kinks but most people just ignore the signs.

Ring his partner, or email her with your actual name and evidence of how you knew and tell her. If you send an anonymous tip it's likely to be seen as a prank.

3/10

You can make an anonymous concern to social services. This is a safeguarding issue.

Can you tell his partner?

So Therefore he will abuse his child???? I’m not really sure what you’re getting at.

Tbh it’s quite a common fetish. Go watch Olivia Attwoods “Getting filthy rich” pretty sure there was a man on there with a fetish of dressing up as a baby.

It doesn’t make him an abuser though.

This. Why the burglary stuff when he can just pick up some Pampers at the supermarket?

The AB community would not condone stealing baby nappies (they wouldn't fit for one thing).
I think the AB fetish community would not align to the behaviour of your friend.
Why is he telling you all this?

Anyway if you are concerned for his child then please inform the appropriates authorities. You don't need MN approval or support.

I read about a prisoner in jail who started to identify as a baby. They gave him a dummy and eventually he demanded adult nappies. The prison wardens shouldn't have to clean him up though. Do you think this person you know will steal his kids dummy or nappies? Do you think he poses a risk to the DC or just might steal the babys equipment?

Completely off topic, but I once had to deal with a planning appeal for an adult baby crèche. As an enforcement appeal, all items in the house had to be listed, in order to see whether it had tipped over into commercial enterprise. It was quite hilarious, as were the neighbours' detailed objections to witnessing grown men in bonnets and nappies crawling around the garden on all fours. There's nowt as queer as folk, as my grandmother would have said.

The nappies in a nursery wouldn’t have even fit him

If that were so masturbation wouldn't be involved.

What you're describing is not at all what OP says.

so high?