Regifting

[sarahh96]

My SIL is 50 in February so I'm looking at gifts that are a little bit special.
She likes silver so I'm looking along the lines of silver jewellery. The problem is, she regifts everything!
I've actually received my gifts to her back to me twice.
On her 40th my parents bought her a very expensive bracelet and it's never been seen since, along with everything else we've ever given her.
Obviously I need to get her something but, knowing she won't keep/wear it, is it ok to buy something secondhand? I wouldn't want her to know it's not new but I'm on a very tight budget and at least that way I won't totally be wasting my money.
What do you think?

How about a voucher for Etsy so she can buy a piece of jewellery she likes? Or vouchers for a restaurant to go out for a meal? Would be a shame for you to go to trouble of choosing a gift you know she won't use.

I think don't buy her something she doesn't want as it will still be a waste of money whether new or second hand. Either consult her upfront about her gift or give her a voucher.

I also think second hand is fine. You can put it in it good jewelry cleaner and it will come up sparkling. Even something from an antique shop might be slightly unusual and you can tell her it's vintage etc

Why not ask her what she would like? I'm very hard to buy for, very rarely am I given something I like. I must order it if people ask me. Equally, I'm very happy to not recieve presents, or for it to be just a token, like a bar of my favourite chocolate.

Why not ask her or her partner what she actually wants. Or gift her an experience instead of a thing.

I'm a bit worried about asking her what she wants as I suspect she may ask for something that's over my budget and could embarrass me, financially. They earn very good wages, whereas I don't.
I think an experience is a very good idea though.
Some good ideas, thank you 😊

Ah I see. Could you ask her and the. Maybe buy the gift alongside a few other family members?

Do you like her? If so voucher for favourite shop/restaurant/experience probably best. If you don’t, you could get her something personalised that she’d struggle to pass on like a photo of her on it, or their kids/pets/address etc 😜

@CoisFarraige 🤣 now there's a thought!

Get it engraved!

Maybe she just feels like she has reached "peak stuff" and so passes things on because she just doesn't want more stuff - a consumable present like an unusual food hamper, or pampering products for the shower/bath, or a posh candle might be better.

I feel I have just got so much stuff and end up, feeling a bit swamp by it (although equally, sometimes get given presents which are really lovely, and yet are still more stuff! )

I'd give her a card and be done with it. She's ungrateful and wouldn't get another gift from me.