So I’ve got an ex who’s my children’s dad who was violent, abusive, stole from me, had addictions etc. the court order is that he can have access only at a supervised contact centre which he’s never bothered with. He didn’t see kids during covid but got in touch by getting my number off his mum who I’d kept in touch with (I’d changed my number previously because he was hassling me 20+times a day texting me etc.)
The problem is he hasn’t changed he threatened me with knife a few months back and the police were involved. My kids are now 14, 12 and 10 and don’t ask after him I think they’ve spent so much time without him and the older two May remember the DV?! I’m quite willing to not see him or communicate with him but I’m wondering should I cut ties with his mum as well, as he’ll use her to get to me. The kids are teenagers now so I figure in a few years they can make up their own minds. I’m actually gutted because I’d seen a job with the police but I haven’t passed the vetting at a higher enough level and they’ve said it’s basically because of him. I guess he’s seen as a threat plus although I have no criminal record he does and because I’ve been in touch with him quite recently. This is why I’m wondering should I block his mum out just to get him off my back and out of my life for good??