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Ethical dilemmas

Terrible neighbour

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Glissando · 23/06/2022 17:22

I rent from a housing association. In a flat next door is a letting agency tenant. It is a small 2 bed flat. Used to have his 4 yes 4 small daughters on weekend access visits but now they seem to be there all the time.

He is an aggressive man. The flat is upstairs. At night he sits in the porch drinking, leaving his kids alone. He urinates in the bushes in the communal garden (I have seen him: there is a big bare patch)

He has a paddling pool he puts out in the communal gardens and the kids make so much noise.

I fell out with him a couple of years ago when I gave him back the unrecyclable stuff he had dumped in my recycling bin. I was polite but he glared at me. He was drunk. A friend was murdered by a neighbour when she complained about noise so I just keep away from him.

The neighbour living downstairs from him goes through sheer hell from 4 kids running and jumping.

Three years of this.

Should I tell the letting agent?

I emailed the NSPCC about him drinking outside at night and even the kids alone but I got no reply.

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HelpIneedsomebodywontyouplease · 23/06/2022 18:35

The paddling pool and kids having fun wouldn’t bother me but leaving the kids alone and pissing in the bushes would.
if you are concerned about the children's welfare then reporting to social services would probably be best. If you report to the LL are there likely to be repercussions? What if he thinks the neighbour below reported him and he makes things worse for them?
It sounds a difficult situation.

Glissando · 27/06/2022 14:26

thank you for your considered response. Yes, I didn't think about the neighbour downstairs being blamed. That could happen.

I do feel pretty stuck about it to be honest.

I might just have to either wait it out until he finally goes or or maybe try and get another place for myself (I have arthritis and upstairs so I may need a new place at some point).

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MsAmerica · 20/11/2022 21:30

Of course you should complain to whoever may have some authority or oversight! I can't believe you haven't done this already.

Your best bet is to do it with a formal letter, and in a group with whatever neighbors you can get to co-sign with you. Be as specific as possible, and as objective as possible - no angry ranting.

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