DB has long standing mental health issue and my parents have written in their wills that it all goes to me, but asked that I split with DB.
He's recently got more stable but I have realised has a weed smoking habit. Yes yes I know it is just weed but it changes his persona. He becomes less communicative, more selfish and base and devious. It is noticeable and frequent.
He has said very clearly that he isn't going to stop. I therefore have no choice really but to stop helping him financially. I mean it cannot be right that I am working and he is smoking his money while running out of money and asking me for some. As sweet and placid as he comes across this is bad behaviour.
The issue is that it goes against my principles to give him money unless I am legally bound to by my parents will.
Do I tell them and ask them to sort out a system so it is legally binding? I don't think they wanted to do this as there are costs and deductions involved. As mentioned though it goes against my principles to give money to someone using drugs.
The absolute bottom line is that I don't want to be the person who gave money to him.
The only way I can think of to get my parents to change it is to let them know that I will not give him a single penny unless they change it. The risk is that they write me out of it but I'd rather stick to principles.