Office affair

[Littlemissbuffer]

I recently found out my boss and his pa (both married with kids) have been having an affair. We are all really close colleagues, all good friends in and out of work but this has shaken my trust in them both. We started the business together. They told me that they have called time on the affair and both were devastated at first. My dilemma is that things have gone back to normal far too quickly which makes me think its back on again, should I confront them as like I said we are all really close pretty much my 2nd family and I feel if they are keeping secrets again this could destroy my trust and respect for them both and essentially leave me unable to work with them anymore.

Why are they talking to you about this. Personally I would avoid any conversations about anything like that. If it does impact your job that's when it's time to look for another one.

are you in a big company with HR? do HR know? the boss should not be managing the PA if he is / has been in a relationship with her.

If HR don't know, they should.

if the company is too small for HR, then your best option is probably to look for another job.

This sounds claustrophobic and very unprofessional.

I would be looking for another job.

What exactly is the work set up?

You refer to your boss but then say you started the business together?

If this man is simply your boss I think you just need to MYOB, if you have a vested interest in the business that's obviously a different matter.

I own a share of the business and was there from day one. Giving my job up is not an option as that would be heartbreaking for me and would cause major disruption and confusion in the workplace and raise too many questions amongst my other colleagues. I'm just so torn as I am now 100% it's started up again and they have both lied to my face when given the opportunity to be honest. I just want to scream at them for being selfish cowards.

OK, so you own a percentage but he's the major shareholder therefore your boss?

Bloody hell that is awkward.

Bottom line though is that it's his personal life, and unless he/they are giving you reason to think the situation makes them untrustworthy from a work perspective, or they are using you to cover for them it's technically none of your business.

I guess as you say you're also close friends it may be worth having a discreet chat and explaining that you feel you're in a very difficult position and you categorically do not want to be party to any further goings on.

The only other option is that you ask him to buy you out, but that's obviously not something you want to do.