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Ethical dilemmas

Yelling neighbour

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Earwigworries · 16/06/2021 17:21

I’ve no idea where to post this !

We have elderly neighbours . We regularly hear the lady shouting at her husband in the garden . She has told my husband that her husband is losing it .. we think she means dementia or something of that ilk . Most of what I hear though is her shouting at him to find something she can’t find , or about something he’s done wrong in the garden . Most of the time he responds quite calmly , but recently he’s sounded distressed and has been asking her to leave him alone .

She has never been an approachable or likeable character , he has always been quite friendly but seems to have aged a lot over the last couple of years. My husbands thinks that we should keep out of it , but I’m concerned about what might be going on inside if she is so loud outside.

I’ve wondering about phoning the local GP or whether I should be phoning someone at the council - like social services.

Does anyone have an ideas what to do

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alexdgr8 · 16/06/2021 17:29

be careful.
i have neighbours who shout so alarmingly at times that i always glance at the clock, mentally noting what time it occurred.
but they want to live together, blood is thicker than water, and strongly resist social workers who seem more interested in how much the house is worth, yet offer no practical support.
if you get any agencies involved, your neighbours' lives may be taken over in ways that do not benefit them.
do you ever have a chance to speak to the man on his own.
if so just try to be friendly, offer to pick up something from the shops, maybe give him your phone number, say in case he needs a prescription fetching. although these can be delivered by pharmacy,
but it's something to say, to make a link, sound friendly, supportive.
might help you to get a feel for how things are, and how he is.
all the best.

Earwigworries · 16/06/2021 17:35

Thanks - yes I ’m aware of the truth of what you say - it’s what’s kept me quiet till now . Good suggestions on how to make contact - I do occasionally see him on my school runs so will try and start a conversation next time

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Outbutnotoutout · 16/06/2021 17:36

What about social services

BoffinMum · 14/08/2021 08:08

I agree, open up a line of communication and active neighbourliness.

itscomplicatedlife · 18/08/2021 22:07

Second social services they may need some support, or even respite perhaps too, if anything gets really bad report to adult safeguarding it should be a number for it online

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