Hi I’m sorry if this is not an acceptable thing to ask on mumsnet but I really need some perspective and I don’t think I am ready to disclose to anybody in real life.
I am in my early 30s and my brother is 3 years older than me. When we were younger I vividly remember strange things happening to me but I cannot remember what age I was, I have a feeling I was around 8 possibly younger ?
He would talk to me about sexual things I remember not knowing anything about sex and him talking to me about it he would show me his penis and ask me to touch it , I remember him masturbating infront of me and asking me to show him my vagina and he put his fingers inside me. I am really sorry if this is too much information for this site.
I recall 3 instances of this and no more or nothing more “severe” I suppose my question is is this normal sibling curiosity ? Or was I actually abused. I am really struggling with this as I remember him not being forceful it was almost like he didn’t know what he was doing and he was being curious, I was never scared but I was definitely confused.
I’ve been doing a lot of reflecting in lockdown and I believe I have some issues relating to sex I have been very promiscuous in the past and I am wondering if this has had an impact.
We haven’t been close as adults and I always wonder if he remembers and that’s why he keeps his distance . Any thoughts would be great thank you.
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Was it abuse ?
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Givemeanidea · 22/06/2020 20:16
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WorkHardPlayHard1 · 06/07/2020 08:49
It sounds like it was innocent children's curiosity to me. Please don't beat yourself or your brother up. As you say you were both children. Put a lid on it and live your best life, forget the guilt and enjoy your life as god knows we need it after all this. 🙏🙏
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