Why Can’t I Stay In Love?

[TrishaNotThatOne]

8 years ago I was married to my first husband. I met a man and fell in love. We had an affair and eventually left our husband/wife and got together. We have two DC. I had been married to DH1 for 7 years.
Now I’ve developed feelings for another man. He is everything my DH isn’t. He pays me a lot of attention and is flirty towards me. I find myself comparing him to my husband. I don’t want to be that person again but I can’t stop these feelings. How do people stay in love?

You sound similar to me, I think I like the ‘newness’ feeling of a relationship and I have now come to the conclusion that I don’t have it in me to love a man on a deeper level, I think I’m too concerned with great sex and physical attraction.

I have thought I’ve loved guys but looking back then I haven’t really. My longest relationship is 3 years and I’m 38, I like attention from boyfriends and when I stop getting any then I start to look elsewhere, it’s why I’ll never marry.

There is nothing wrong with you but long term committed relationships aren’t for everyone.

It takes effort and commitment and attention and nurturing.

You talk about other men paying you attention, how much attention do you pay to your husbandm