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Ethical dilemmas

To report my someone to social serivices (drugs)

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MrsHoodwink · 29/09/2018 15:55

More my friend’s friend than mine, we’re not close but I have spent time with her in a group setting

One DC already removed for neglect and she has the other, a toddler, living with her

She’s always been nice and I far as I’ve known a good mum to the youngest however she, her DP (new relationship as in a few weeks, not the kids Dad) and my friend have been doing drugs downstairs while the kid is upstairs or getting constant babysitters so she can do drugs (party drugs like cocaine and plant food)

I’m a mum so I find this really disturbing and have fallen out with my friend a lot. It’s not during the working week (as far as I know) but from thurs-sun

I’ve rang SS in the past when I saw a pregnant woman I knew with twins fist fighting and they were suspicious and annoyed when I wanted to remain anonymous (her best friend confirmed they never chased up the complaint)

I would want to remain anonymous this time, I’m certainly not close enough to discuss her drug use/potential child abuse with her to her face

But I seriously worry that the youngest might start being neglected and they’ll probably have a suspicion it was me who called so I really don’t want SS to have my name (I’d be under huge threat of violence)

I don’t know what to do I’m scared to do it, is it even the right thing to do? Is it my place?

I would much rather see her quit drugs and have her child but the whole process could just push her even harder into drug abuse?

help

OP posts:
Sowhatifisaycunt · 29/09/2018 16:14

Would calling the NSPCC feel less threatening for you than SS? Children need adults to safeguard them, even anonymously.

MrsJayy · 29/09/2018 16:17

I think contacting the Nspcc is a good idea they will advise and guide you better and perhaps report for you

osa20 · 08/10/2018 13:34

I'd say it's your place - I know I would, especially if it's a toddler.

Gammeldragz · 08/10/2018 13:44

I used nspcc with a similar issue with my relative, they advised a referral to child social services which they did. I have been cut out from that person's life now, but my duty of care was to the children and I don't regret it.

Charolais · 16/10/2018 14:56

I’ve rang SS in the past when I saw a pregnant woman I knew with twins fist fighting and they were suspicious and annoyed when I wanted to remain anonymous (her best friend confirmed they never chased up the complaint)

As long as they were following the Queensbury Rules this is very good exercise.

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