Moral Dilema

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I'm sure this has come up before, but please forgive me if I've been less than patient trying to find a previous thread.

As a male, I'm not good at asking for advise (obviously) but I'm getting towards my wits end to be honest.

I've been working with a special lady for a few years now, and I find myself in a situation where my feelings towards her have changed. I don't want to use the "L" word, but the classic "symptoms" are there.

I'm single and she has a partner, moreover, she seems perfectly content with the relationship she has.

I feel at this point I should say that I do have a strong moral compass and would tell others to just suck it up and get on with it, but it's funny how your perspective changes when you find someone you think would be perfect for you!

If you have any words of wisdom, you might just save the last threads of my sanity!

What words of wisdom do you want! She's in a relationship and happy, she's not interested so get over it. She's not available

You say yourself that you have a strong moral compass, so I don’t know what advice you expect.

You work together so I presume you spend around 40 hours a week in each other’s company which is probably more than she spends with her dp, just be grateful that you spend the majority of your waking hours with someone you like. Whatever you do, do not destroy your working relationship by declaring your undying love for her.

I think you need to get out and find someone of your own, I do realise that’s often easier said than done.

If she's married then I'd say keep quiet. If she isn't married you could think about speaking out. Maybe she's unhappy in the relationship.

Good points both.This is my first time asking for advise so I get that I didn't ask an actual question.

To be clear, I have no intention of saying anything to her, and I am grateful.

I guess my question would be around resolving the internal conflict and being able to continue the relationship we have without me f'ing it up.