Am I the worst person ever

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My boyfriend thinks I'm getting an abortion and says he doesn't wish to stay together if I keep the child.

I've lead him to believe I've got one (an abortion) booked just to keep him sweet but
I have a scan booked for Tuesday (at a hospital) I told him that rather than having to go for a scan alone in the abortion clinic, I'll have the dating scan at the hospital so he can come with me.

I told him that it'll just be a completely normal scan that everyone woman has so to expect normal chit chat from the sonographer and don't mention the abortion. He fell for it hook, line and sinker.

I'm hoping that he'll see the scan and completely change his mind. I know this is so stupid of me but I am so desperate. If he doesn't come round I'm not going to keep lying to him and I'll come forward with the truth

Am I a sick individual?

You are disgusting. This man doesn’t want the child and he can never force you to have abortion so lying about one was unnecessarily cruel. I think when he finds out you should expect him not to be happy and to still not want this child but I also think if you go for child matinence you are even worse than you are now. How dare you do something so nasty. Are you mentally ready for a child?

I realise I may seem harsh in the comment I posted. I just don’t understand why by people would lie about things like this. And why are others saying it’s not ok for him to suggest an abortion? Women do it even when the man begs them not to so why should it matter if he suggests it? If he wants to leave her if she doesn’t that is also ok. To lie about having one is weird and just not on.

You're being pressured into an abortion, yet you still ask if you're the sick individual?

Tell him the truth and then accept the consequences ( him leaving) but do not have an abortion if you don’t want one. Good luck to you

I think it’ll have been decided one way or another by now. What happened OP?

He doesn’t want a baby, why would a scan change that? Why would you put yourself through that?