Partner is making me pay him to look after our child

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Hello,
I feel really miserable and unnapreciated.
Me and my partner fell unemployed at the same time when I was pregnant. We had to rely on the system for a while.
When my daughter turned 6 months - I managed to find a great flexible job that only required me to work 3 hours a day max. (I have my clients and do alternative therapy work)

The only issue is - my partner still has had no luck finding a job. And now he is making me pay to look after her. He complains that he hates sitting at home all day like a housewife.
He keeps making me miserable every time I come home.
Despite me being the only one bringing home an income.

I am paying him now just to shut him up. He has nowhere to go (no family) and I am the one he relies on.
He said as soon as he finds a job he wants to travel abroad to find a new opportunity. WTF?

At one point I considered running away with the baby to London and starting a new life.
But I have no savings.

Don't know what to do anymore.

Appreciate any advice. Thank you.

What do you mean pay him? Does he buy the food and baby things? I suspect though it's as bad as it sounds and he will be gone soon enough. If it works for you make it sooner...

Sorry what?! You're paying him to look after his own child??

No advice other than to stop giving him money immediately and get rid of him. What a waste of space.

What a twat! Find a childminder and chuck him out on his arse, I've never heard of anything so ridiculous as charging to care for your own child!

So tell him you will deduct it from his board and lodging owed if he's going to be like that

Run away
this will only get worse

Isnt all money family money? If he is the stay at home parent then your earnings should just be shared

I take it this 'pay' is going in to his own pocket?

Why are you enabling this dickhead behaviour?

Why are you even with him?!

Fucking hell, what on EARTH are you doing with such a waste of space?!

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Look it up. Would you want your daughter to end up with some useless sponger? What sort of example are you setting her if you do?

If you aren't earning enough to cover the rent then you should be entitled to some housing benefit and working tax credit (more so if you get rid of that waste of space). But whatever you do you clearly deserve better than some pathetic entitled loser who makes you feel bad

Run away. What you have is not a life.

Are you living together? If so your income will be seen as household income by benefits and if over a (low) threshold his JSA will stop. If this has happened he might have a point (although not specifically about being paid to look after his child. DH and I had a similar conversation in the past and I said I would happily pay him the equivalent of JSA if he then used it to pay half the rent, bills and food bill. He soon then realised he would be worse off and was being unreasonable and we worked out a fair approach together regarding joint money.

Wait a minute, guy makes partner and mother of his child financially compensate him for caring for said child while she goes out to work to support the family.... EH??

You don't get a wage for being a parent.
I would seriously be thinking about your options.

Seriously ?