I am married with two lovely DC's
Just found out I am pregnant. (I must be about 4 weeks)
Husband was in complete shock and is pretty sure he wants us to have a termination.
I don't know if I can go through this again. I had one about 15 years ago when I was in a completely different situation. It was a painful lonely experience. Was brought up in a strict christian home so nobody knew about it.
Now, I am married, it is not great timing and I know it will be very hard with 3 kids under 5 and not yet at school. I also know I am not very enthusiastic about being pregnant again but I could do it.
I have thoughts running here and there.
I lost my dad about 6 months ago in the same week as a friend. I am not even sure I have done the greiving for them yet let alone to have to do it for a termination. (and yes I did feel very empty and lost when I had that years ago)
I do suffer with depression but have been on fluroxetine throughout both previous pregnancies and been fine.
I also get very tired and lethargic on some days which makes looking after the kids a little harder.
Honestly I do not think finances are an issue, we might miss out on some things but we are doing ok.
I rarely have a break from my two already and it has been draining but we have managed and love them to pieces. They have just 2 years between them.
I know DH won't be happy if I don't go ahead with the appointments, I don't know how he will react and I know he will find it a strain with another child around.
I had a DVT also after dc1 was born and I think that is a worry to him although I would just go back on the injections probably. Had no probs with DC2.
I don't want to go into how we got to this point. We were using contraception and waiting for him to get the snip.
Both our families would have a fit if they found out (even though we are well into our 30's!) so we would be keeping it all to ourselves.
The thing that is making it hardest is that my 3 year old keeps asking for a brother and a bigger family! :(
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Ethical dilemmas
Termination, can I do? Should I do?
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Frecklesandspecs · 23/02/2013 18:34
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