Wasn't going to post here again, as didn't want to bump it, though hopefully it will be moved soon, so [big breath] here goes...
Fannylogan excellent point. Can I expand on that scenario and say perhaps that conversation had taken place in a shopping centre, within ear shot of many passer-by's. Someone goes to centre management and says "There are people discussing such and such down there. It is upsetting for some to hear, can you tell them to move on?" Management agrees and does so (fair enough), taking the people who were discussing the issue to the place you were talking about, where the are people supporting each other during a horrible time in their lives (not fair enough). "Here you go, discuss it here, you may upset people here too, but don't worry they are the minority, and besides they've terminated their own babies, they'll cope" Ok, so maybe that's not actual how it is, but that is how it feels.
Dueling I was thinking the same regarding 'Would this thread be put in the SN board?' And of course the answer would be no, would be incredibly insensitive to do so. As it is here. But it seems, to some, sensitivity on this board isn't a priority.
Expat would people on the SN board really not be offended though if the thread was on their board containing post after post saying having a baby with DS is wrong? They would, of course, have every right to be. People on the SN boards are living it ('it' as in issues referred to in this thread) every day, and people on the AT/C board are living it in the now too, so of course, threads of this kind don't belong in either board (I know you didn't move it)
Livefortoday I didn't read all of your post as too long but get the gist. That may mean I missed out on pertinent information, but WTH, I'll respond anyway. No actually, on second thoughts, to respond to your post without reading it in it's entirety, given the sensitivity of the subject would be wrong. I, for one, do not for one moment think all people with DS are the same. I'll admit, there was a time in my life when I may have thought this - a time before I was faced with the knowledge that the baby I was carrying did have DS. That is when I did my research into the facts regarding the, potential I'll admit, problems relating to DS. I based my decision on that actually, not preconceived ideas of them all being the same (which, for me, only extended to the stereotype: they're all so happy and loving, and who wouldn't want that?)Â I'm sorry if I sound harsh, it's just that this oversimplified view of why people might terminate for DS really bugs me. It's like the extent of our thinking is "Ooo, a baby with DS? Dont want one of those " Just not true.
To the people who don't want this thread moved from here, I just don't see how it is beneficial to anyone where it is. No one is asking for it to be deleted, just moved.Â
For a start, I think AT/C is mainly frequented by people facing tests/choices, not people  debating the ethical issues involved. For those that have been diagnosed with a DS pregnancy, a thread like this isn't helpful in coming to an informed decision, being full of speculation and personal opinions from both sides of the 'debate'.Â
There's also the issue of hurting those that have recently gone through/are going through this, though it's evident this isn't important to a few. The comments are water off a ducks back to me, as I have moved on with my life (interpret that however you wish), though I feel very protective of those who are going through/have recently gone through this and whose emotions are still very raw.
Those with differing viewpoints who do consider the feelings of others, may be reluctant to post their true feelings here for the very reason of not upsetting someone, so you don't get an honest and open discussion anyway.
Finally, people that have terminated come here for support and to support others going through tests etc, whatever choice they come to in the end. They are not interested in influencing another's choice either way, that is why you will rarely see reasons given why people went on to terminate (besides medical diagnosis and perhaps personal situations). So a thread inviting people to speculate about/give reasons for terminating should not be here IMO