How do you manage?

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My father has been in hospital, but is going to be discharged very soon. He can’t live by himself anymore, so he needs to go into a care home, which he is resisting. I have two annual leave days left until Christmas. How do you manage to look for care homes and sort everything out for an elderly parent when you work full time, have children, and live 4 hours away? I don’t drive, so I have no car. I have a brother, but he lives in Australia. Thank you.

Thank you for this.

That would make it easier for me, thank you.

That’s what I’m worried about, thank you.

That might work, thank you. It’s so hard to think rationally at the moment posting on here has really helped.

Thank you.

Thank you to all of you. You have all given me good advice. I appreciate you all replying to my post, it’s really helped make me feel
less alone, so thank you again.

https://www.gov.uk/time-off-for-dependants

https://www.gov.uk/carers-leave

You could also take "stress related sick leave"

He may be entitled to a rehab period of time in a rehab home. They’re less care home like, people stay for a few weeks, have support from physio and or occupational therapists. It is also worth considering if he is going home does he need any aids to support him. Any equipment or a feels alarm. The rehab homes usually have slightly younger people in, for example after a hip replacement. It may be worth asking about this. It can be easier to accept this as a stop gap and for professionals to assess his needs outside of hospital. There is a process called discharge to assess, depending on why he has been in hospital/his current needs.