I care for an elderly relative. Not my parent. I call them EPICF [elderly person I care for]. They have been in hospital recently and were discharged back to their care home 12 days ago. They have dementia which is why they are in care as home wasn’t safe anymore.
I live a long way away so today was my first opportunity to visit.
I found the bags that EPICF had had in hospital full of stuff (including heavily soiled laundry in a separate NHS bag inside the main bag) sitting on the floor of their care home room today. So the staff didn’t fully unpack for them when they returned to the care home. They aren’t capable of unpacking and their laundry is put away for them normally and I’ve labelled all the storage in the room to try to help both staff and EPICF find things.
I’m really upset about this (mostly the soiled laundry tbh) and messaged my siblings to let them know. One of my siblings has indicated that this isn’t a big deal as this sort of stuff was commonplace when EPICF lived at home and I should just leave it as we aren’t paying for one to one care just a bed in a care home.
Whereas I think it is really really is a big deal and that someone should have unpacked and sent stuff to the laundry upon EPICF’s return not left it festering in their room for 12 days.
Opinions welcome.