After twenty five years of contact with my late Mum’s younger sister, out of duty, I have chosen guilt over resentment. My aunt is in her 80’s and the past few years she has been horrible.
This aunt recently had to act as a ‘messenger’ between me and estranged members of my family, and she did it badly. She told me that I was being wronged - then emailed to tell me ‘not to stir trouble’ by mentioning it as she would ‘get in trouble’. I should have reduced contact long ago, and feel great relief I’ve finally done it. Thank you to the poster who pointed out the choice.