Update Stressed with Narc DM's behaviour

[Frazzledmummy123]

Following on from my last post, I left my parents 10 days ago during a visit because my mum was spoiling for a fight and went off at me, then called my husband with lies and gave me the silent treatment since.

She sent birthday cards today (it's my birthday tomorrow) so I called her to say thanks to build a bridge. She only turned on me halfway through the call, guilt tripping me saying "your dad was looking for my son all day that day you stormed out" (I am pretty sure he wasn't), and how she felt so sorry for my son that day ("his wee face"). No word at all about my daughter as my son is their clear favourite 😠

I got told "she only said...etc" and there was no need for me to be so sensitive and walk out like that". "How do I get on in life like that", etc. I cut the call.

Now here I am, it's my birthday tomorrow and sitting here crying and wishing I had never actually been born into this hell. What type of person 10 days after a fall out starts again on first conversation back?

I don't give a damn what happens to her now, but I don't want to leave things like this with my dad.

She's angry at you for standing up to her and trying to get you back into line through manipulation and bullying.

Agree with pp.
leave it for now.
(your dad is possible a flying monkey)
you need to get to the stage when you can laugh at her.

‘cut that out mum, that not was said. Its time you stop telling lies’
and call her out every single time.
Step back and let her come to you. Or not.
Dry your tears you are worth more.

How are you today OP?

I'm okay thanks. Just feeling very down about it all. She called me to say happy birthday and had another pop

Seems to me you have 2 choices, OP:

• carry on contacting her and hoping she'll change (she won't)
• go very low or no contact for your own peace of mind