Just need to offload

[ButSpringDidNotKnow]

Daft little thing, but sometimes the daft little things are heavy.

DM, 90s, frail, early dementia progressing, has had a fright and is spiralling. To keep her steady I am whittering on and on about grandchildren etc. Mostly this is stuff she remembers or can ask about, so she’s stopped spiralling and creating her worries. But, dear God, it’s draining.

For the first time I’m hoping that the dementia makes her forget something: the thing that upset her. But I know my mum. She’s brilliant at remembering the negatives.

oh well. Onwards and upwards (or maybe downwards).

Aw, keep on keeping on. X

That’s all we can do, isn’t it.

My MIL only seemed to remember the v very thing that we didn't want her to remember. ☹️

The only thing my mum seems to remember is a phone number I haven't used for over 13 years. She has scraps of paper with "useful" numbers dotted about her bungalow and in her handbag. I'm forever finding another one and changing my number.

The constant negativity and spiralling is hard going - I know it’s the dementia but it’s exhausting too

My DM repeatedly remembers in great detail what that nasty person said 30+ years ago. She also obsesses about the weather being bad.

It's tough - take care of yourself OP