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Elderly parents

Are family expected to turn loved ones in bed?

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Firefly1987 · 14/01/2026 19:26

Not a current situation but was reflecting on what happened in the past and just want to know if this is normal protocol. Basically we got told to move our family member in bed to prevent pressure sores just before they died. They couldn't really move themselves at all by that point. We agreed but not even thinking how hard it'd actually be when we came to do it. We never got any training in how best to do this (assuming there is a proper way to do it though I don't know) or anything at all just "move them every 4 hours" and it just kind of sounded easy and we didn't question it.

It was really hard and our family member was in a lot of pain whilst we tried to turn them over. We did manage it but I'm kind of traumatised over causing them pain every time. Just wondering if this was a situation we should've been put in? For reference it was just me and my mum (I have brothers but they weren't around the whole time to help) is this just something you get stuck in and do or are family not really supposed to be put in this situation? We have no nursing experience at all. Thank you.

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LancashireButterPie · 16/01/2026 00:26

You should have been referred to OT who would have trained you how to turn your Dad and use specialist equipment if you felt able to.
Otherwise his needs should have been met through his care package/ carers.

Firefly1987 · 16/01/2026 22:46

@LancashireButterPie thank you. IIRC they delayed letting him out of hospital because of the equipment issues but there was no care or nursing support at all. Can't believe they didn't think he'd need that! Some training would've helped a bit at least.

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