She's refused to speak to either me or sibling since about March because we weren't unconditionally supportive all those times when she kicked off with everybody where she lives, and they've all fallen out with her so she's put it on the market and kicked off with us too.
With Christmas looming I'm dreading the 'are you coming here' conversation because it's like pulling teeth. She usually comes to me (lives a mile away) but moans about feeding time (too late for lunch, too early for tea)/ the stairs/ driving 'all that way back' in the dark etc. Yes she knows how to use Uber, no the expense is not the problem. Last year she really definitely wanted to come as usual then developed a 'terrible chest cold' on 23rd, cancelled, and then was miraculously restored in time for the obligatory Xmas morning video call, not even a tickle much less the 'hacking cough' that had been apparent not 48 hours previous. Last time I saw her was in April when she bent my ear for a solid 3 hours with judgy nonsense about 'something of nothing' incidents that had all blown over months previously, and the last time I spoke to her was weeks ago when I talked her out of making an official complaint about the manager there for bullying her over an argument arising from her not intervening when somebody else had had a medical situation. I don't think I can even be bothered doing the reach this time, maybe just leave her to it...