Carers allowance- what classes towards 35 hours care?

[Jollygee]

A relative provides a lot of care and support for their parent and are always at their beck and call (their parent has terminal cancer).

What counts towards the 35 hours of care per week?

Their relative receives attendance allowance.

They are the ones who the parent relies on them for.

Everything care related counts towards the 35 hours but it's mainly actual physical care really. You can't live 10 miles away and say you ring them all the time and remind them to do stuff.

Pretty much anything done to support the disabled person
Physically helping them, talking to them on the phone, doing errands for them, doing jobs around the house, taking them to and from appointments, taking them out and about, being present to keep an eye on them

On gov.U.K. It says:

helping with washing and cooking.
taking them to medical appointments.
Household tasks such as shopping and managing bills.

I was told whatever the person would need to buy in. So for DH, seven nights a week overnight as a start.

Physical care
Emotional care and support
Life admin
Taking to appointments
Being there to check the person is OK

I received the lower rate of Carers' Allowance when I was caring for my mum. She had carers twice a day to get her up in the morning and put her to bed at night.

The morning carers would make her bed but if it needed changing (every other day) I did that.

I did all the domestic type tasks - laundry, cleaning, shopping, cooking. All the admin that wasn't take care of by direct debit - so paying the paper bill, dealing with her mail, making all her appointments and getting her there etc.

She wouldn't leave the house without me so I would take her out in the wheelchair a couple of times a week.

She couldn't get to the bathroom on her own so I would take her probably 6 times in the day - each trip took between 30 and 45 minutes by the time I got her into the wheelchair and out and back again.

And I would eat my dinner with her in the evening and stay until the carers came.

It seemed that every other night she would phone me in the middle of the night confused about the time thinking it was the middle of the day and the carers hadn't been. So I would have to go her and help her back into bed.

Taking her to the toilet, laundry and cleaning took about 5 hours each day so that was easily 35 hours plus the added time I spent with her.