Another vigil

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Sitting with my mum at another deathbed vigil. The first one for a while. We are hopeful this time that she might really be free soon. Her chest is very rattly but she isn’t conscious. I’m here to protect her from well-meaning attempts to stop nature taking its course.

Amazingly this one has happened when my sibling is in the country - my mum always had good timing.

We were fortunate that my mother had signed a DNR and we were able to stop them taking her to hospital. We spent a week sitting by her bedside in her own bedroom and she died peacefully and untroubled by medical intervention. My thoughts are with you. Your mother is lucky to have you there to protect her. The endless drips and anti biotics only serve to extend everyone’s suffering.

Have a hug from me, and wishing you all peace.

Sending love to you and your Mum it’s a hard thing to watch 😔

Wishing your mum peace and a handhold for you and your family

Thank you all. Yes, we’re safely staying in the nursing home. Nice GP has visited and starting some end of life drugs.

Thinking of you and praying for a peaceful and calm departure from this life for your mum.

She’s recovering.

I can’t bear it. The secretions have cleared up. She looked at me briefly. She so desperately wants to be out of this but her body won’t let her die.

Time to go home and sleep and hope somehow she manages to find an exit.

How is she now, OP?

You have my every sympathy. My poor DF has a miserable existence with extremely advanced Alzheimer’s and although it’s a terrible thing to say, I hope and pray for his death every day. I know he would not have wanted this, and I have to make a deliberate effort to remember how he was before this horrific disease.