I have been assisting every week with shopping for groceries for DM and our very old relative. Relative ended up in hospital with fractures recently we have been visiting and helping out.
DM phoned me as I was wfh yesterday and without so much as a hello told me our relative is getting home in 2-3 weeks and that we need to sort some things at the house. She wanted me over that night to help her. I had signed up to a webinar (on healing from trauma funny enough) for 3 nights so am unable to go. I told her I had these on and would not be able to go. I am sure she felt this was not important and I should go anyway. I asked when it's needed for and again she said 2-3 weeks... She then said we could do it on Saturday (my usual day for helping).
I thought that was the matter over but when I texted this morning saying I'll drop by to quickly see our relative in hospital she told me she'd spoken to my sibling (who works away) and their spouse was going to help instead but now she's asking a family friend who is visiting today. "Someone reliable" she said 🙄I sent a nice text back saying that's good of them and hope they get it sorted but I was happy to help on Saturday as she'd suggested. She's ignoring that text. So childish but very proud of myself for setting a boundary, not cancelling my plans for something not urgent and growing and healing.