Advance Directive

[ByLimeAnt]

DM is in her 80s and was in excellent health until earlier this year when she had a collapse. No cause was found despite multiple investigations.

Since then she has organised some paperwork and sorted out financial and health POA for my sister and I. She has been very clear that she does not want active intervention in the event of a neurological event.

What she hasn't done is made this formal in any way. I was wondering if anyone could point me in the direction of some resources that I can offer her to consider? I suspect she would prefer a DNAR but tbh there is more to consider in terms of ends of life care.

I just want to be sure I am following her wishes. DSis is on the same page as me.

You can register an advance directive with your GP and get a copy put on her medical records. My dad has one. Also make sure yourself and sister are down as contacts.

i think you need to get her to fill in a RESPECT form.

Thank you both for your help.

Agree with a RESPECT form. An appointment with a GP would be good, they are the experts on this and can add her wishes to the record and sort DNACPR too. You might be lucky and she’s in an area where the hospital can see the full GP record (I’m not, they only have a rather confusing summary, though presumably less confusing to doctors).