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Elderly parents

Selling house to pay for care home - logistics

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InvisibleDragon · 06/08/2025 14:29

Hello, I'm new to this board and this whole situation, so sorry if this all sounds a bit confused!

My grandparent is in their 80s and has quite advanced vascular dementia. There's been a significant deterioration recently and they need to move from home to a care home with specialist dementia support.

There is space in a suitable private care home and a plan for 2 weeks of respite care as a trial.

If the move is permanent, they will need to self fund and their home will need to be sold to pay for the care home fees.

What are the financial options for this? My understanding is that my mum has applied for financial and welfare Power of Attorney but that it hasn't come through yet and will be at least another month. My grandparent definitely does not have capacity to make decisions about the house sale at this point. And also not to re-sign PoA paperwork if there are any issues with it.

I understand that a "Deferred Payment Agreement" is possible - is this used while waiting for a house to sell? This seems to be the only option as there aren't other assets, but are there financial risks? I think the local authority will offer 3 months' deferred payment; the care home itself about a year. What kind of interest rates are usually charged for these? And what if the house isn't sold in that period?

Also, I think a PoA would also need to be in place to progress with a DPA? How is this handled while waiting for the PoA?

Finally, as a hopefully avoided worst case scenario, what happens if there is no PoA in the long term? How is care paid for in that case? Do you have to get a Welfare Guardian appointed (yikes)?

Grandparent lives in England. I'm in Scotland, so may have used some Scottish legal terms by mistake! And apologies if this sounds rather dry and clinical - it's quite a lot to deal with as a family, so just trying to get my head round the practical stuff!

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DorothyStorm · 06/08/2025 22:37

Im in the same place atm. So following!

beetr00 · 07/08/2025 12:02

@InvisibleDragon

Age UK have useful info

Soontobe60 · 07/08/2025 12:17

If POA isn’t successful your mum can apply for Deputyship through the court of protection. I did this for my stepfather. It’s complicated so I used a solicitor - it cost about £2k in total but the payment came out of his account once Deputyship was granted. It took around 6 months. I was then able to manage his bank account directly.
Has your grandma got Attendance Allowance? This and her state pension can be paid into your mums account directly - just contact the DWP - and can be used to pay some of the care home fees. Your situation isn’t uncommon and LA’s / Care homes are used to dealing with it.

childofthe607080s · 07/08/2025 12:28

do you mean your mum is trying to get en existing PoA enacted or is there not actually one in place ?

PoA are prepared by your grandparent - your mam can’t make one for her. She can only trigger the
enactment of an existing PoA

they need to be written before anything goes wrong - people often make that mistake

InvisibleDragon · 07/08/2025 14:42

childofthe607080s · 07/08/2025 12:28

do you mean your mum is trying to get en existing PoA enacted or is there not actually one in place ?

PoA are prepared by your grandparent - your mam can’t make one for her. She can only trigger the
enactment of an existing PoA

they need to be written before anything goes wrong - people often make that mistake

The paperwork for the PoA is completed and has been sent for approval. My grandparent deteriorated very quickly, so last month had capacity to prepare and sign all the necessary paperwork. But there's a delay while it gets checked/approved and can then be activated.

If there are any mistakes that would need to be fixed and re-sent we are stuck and will need to go the Deputyship route, because my grandparent doesn't have the capacity to redo the paperwork now. But fingers crossed everything is correct and it comes through ok!

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InvisibleDragon · 07/08/2025 14:43

Soontobe60 · 07/08/2025 12:17

If POA isn’t successful your mum can apply for Deputyship through the court of protection. I did this for my stepfather. It’s complicated so I used a solicitor - it cost about £2k in total but the payment came out of his account once Deputyship was granted. It took around 6 months. I was then able to manage his bank account directly.
Has your grandma got Attendance Allowance? This and her state pension can be paid into your mums account directly - just contact the DWP - and can be used to pay some of the care home fees. Your situation isn’t uncommon and LA’s / Care homes are used to dealing with it.

Thank you for this - hopefully everything is ok with the PoA application, but it's good to know there is a clear process to follow if this doesn't work out!

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