Updating elderly FIL house but where does he go?

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86 year old FIL lives on his own in a bungalow that badly needs the kitchen and bathroom updating, and re-carpeting throughout. A lot of it needs doing because it’s now in a very poor condition and he’s getting less mobile. We are trying to manage the work for him, but are stumped as to where he can live when the work is going on, which is likely to take 2-3 weeks. Has anyone been through similar at all, or have any ideas? Unfortunately for a number of reasons he can’t stay with us.

Restbite care ?

Unless he has 24 hour care needs respite care in a care home would be really innapropriate and a hotel/holiday cottage/cruise would also probably be cheaper

Airbnb?

No, he doesn’t have 24h needs to warrant a care home yet. Air bnb may be a consideration thank you.

How about approaching a b n b? They could provide him with a more personal approach and they wd probably be glad of consistent business. Doesn’t have to be a fantoosh one - just clean with en-suite and somewhere to watch tv. They might b willing to heat up microwave meals?

What about a Warner hotel holiday?

I think you mean respite. No-one is biting anyone for a rest.

Can a family member take him on holiday? Do the minimum repair which address safety issues only not cosmetics. Can he stay at home whilst some of these repairs are done, with work arounds ie kettle in living room, use a commode etc.

Good ideas. They have Chester drawers there

If his mobility is a concern you would need to be very careful in selecting an airbnb. It could have issues for him that would not be immediately apparent, trip hazards like rugs or steps, difficulty accessing the shower, and he may struggle to use items like the cooker and washing machine. Would he be happy in an unfamiliar place on his own?

MIL is in sheltered housing and there is a lady staying temporarily as work is being done to her house after a water leak.

Why would someone running and air b n b be willing to do this ? They aren't carers.

Think poster meant a B and b?

I actually think that’s a good idea. Especially if you can get one near you (you don’t say how close you are geographically living).

That way you can have him for dinner etc

Can you do it in two stages? DM stayed in a hotel by the sea for a few days while her kitchen was done.

Perhaps Two hotel breaks with a visit to family in between? Could family have him for a couple of days each and drive him between? So Aunty Jill has him for a couple of days then takes him to cousin John, who takes him to his son, who takes him home?

That is a good idea, I didn't realise that was a possibility with sheltered housing. Either that, or a short stay at a residential care home, many will offer that option for a few weeks.

Care homes definitely offer this as a man by us stayed in one whilst his home was being refurbished to meet his needs.

My father in law at 85 stayed at the local hoseasons lovely holiday lodge park ( with bar and cafe on site) for 6 weeks between moving houses - then again he is safe and capable and it was December and Jan so he got really cheap for the quality - beautiful lodge too !! And saved on heating bills -

Whilst it’s not a legal requirement, you do have the option of reading posts correctly before presenting your uppity opinion. But you do you. Yawn.

Is he ok doing his own cooking and food prep? And ok with stairs, bathroom without any accessibility features? Likely to be able to cope with a different oven, microwave etc? Then I’d look for a holiday let. Maybe off season so it would be cheaper.

Otherwise a residential care home respite stay. It’s not nursing care. My elderly went into one for ten days after an operation. I have a disabled friend who lives in one, runs a car and goes out and about every day! They can be harder to book in advance though as availability can vary.

A hotel? If you booked somewhere that offered room service he could get meals delivered to his room if getting to the restaurant was tricky.

You could book a room that had a seating area and ask for a ground floor/accessible room.