My mother has a personality disorder, sees relationships as transactional, and has always been deeply manipulative - in particular, using her health as a weapon for emotional blackmail.
We have reconciled since I've been in recovery, which has coincided with her having heart problems (which I'm trying my hardest to believe in). She lives an hour away and I'm taking time off work to take her to hospital appointments, stay with her when she's recuperating, etc.
She is now claiming many other health problems that will require me to come and stay with her, do chores that she is too weak to do herself. I don't have a problem with that, but she is so obviously lying - I know this sounds like I'm being mean & uncaring, but when you've known someone for over four decades, you know. (She's a terrible liar.) The moment I say "We really need a more permanent care solution," she says I'm "extremely mean" and that I "promised" to look after her.
It's very hard to establish boundaries: I don't want to be cruel or heartless, and I'm here for when she really needs. But she has cried wolf and pushed her friends and family to their limits throughout her life, and as a result has virtually no one left.