Father’s Day

[Mammadrama]

Hello, I lost my Dad almost 5 years ago. He was far from perfect, but he understood me. I’m pretty much a 50 year only child with a sibling who chose to live v far away- I’ve been pretty much my 82 year old Mom only family etc. I live in a country surrounded by my husband’s family- he still has both his parents and sibling and numerous family members not far away from him- I find his lack of empathy on a day this - Father’s Day - to put it mildly- hurtful- no mention of my loss or just a recognition - that I miss my Dad- I feel in some sense yes- I’m feeling sorry for myself but if was in reverse- I feel like I’d make some sort of recognition that it can be a sad day for those who lost their father. I still made sure that our child did some for him today… maybe people just don’t get it unless it’s their time when they lose a parent- thanks for reading- it’s been a lonely day for me

Lost my Dad two years ago and I completely get it. I feel angry today. Not especially because he’s no longer here, but because the vast majority of my remaining family have ignored the fact it is Father’s Day and how his only daughter may be feeling. However, I’m trying to focus on the lovely messages I did receive, in recognition of today and not dwell on the fact that my Mother couldn’t be bothered to text me, despite me being the dutiful daughter and supporting her in her grief. Anyway, I’m having a cry, some delicious wine and will re-group tomorrow.

My dad died earlier this year. My mum hasn’t contacted me today either.

I know how you feel - my dad died last year, followed a few weeks later by my mother falling and breaking her hip. I know she isn't the most with it person and probably failed to realise when father's day was, both this year and last, but it still hurts a bit that she doesn't think to contact me on the day. I miss him.

@Vinotinto78 yep- I feel the same but more disaapointed than angry. I too had some wine ( maybe too much) and a cry. My teenager was sympathetic when realised the day and me. I think I’m most disappointed in my husband tbh

My Dad died in April. I’m an only child and my mother died in Dec 2023. But I don’t find Father’s Day difficult, it’s made up commercial nonsense. I miss my Father is so many ways and most days but not because a card shop tells me I should.

@luckylavender totally respect how you handle Father’s Day but I personally miss it and it was a nice tradition I had for my Dad, especially as it sometimes coincides with my birthday - just expressing a feeling of loss which is different for anyone who loses a parent- especially their first one