i lost my Mum last year after a long illness. My Dad was her carer, thinking back on it I thought he was snippy with her but sometimes she wasn’t the easiest to live with due to the nature of her illness so I just thought that was there way.
it is only since she passed I have really took on how rude my Dad can be especially to me. When I call him to see how he is he is snippy if I don’t give the response he wants to his latest moan, It sometimes feels like if I say black he will say white just for the sake of it. I get he is grieving but I am too and to be honest if it was anyone else acting like that I would simply just stop contacting them.
its terrible but there are only the two of us left as my sibling has also passed away but I am dreading any contact him. Gone are the days where I would look forward to visiting him and now I put it off as much as possible because he has become the definition of a grumpy old man. Has anyone else experienced this and any tips on how to make this relationship a bit easier?
There is little point in actually talking to him about his behaviour as he is emotionally immature and holds grudges so would likely go in a huff. It’s actually pathetic when I write this down.