She doesn't talk to me properly

[Featherpink]

I have a few brothers. Growing up, my mother always lived her life caring for them. It was the only thing that gave her purpose. She went above and beyond even well into their adulthood. It was definitely some form of mental health issues on my mother's part but I diagnosised. She just believed that men are useless for being male and it's her job to do everything. It was disgusting. She is jealous of their partners. There's just an awful horrible tone.

Even a few my brothers hasn't range home since Xmas and she still thinks that the sun shines from their arse and they can do no wrong.

I am the only closest living relative and I help and provide her with company and security for the home.

She just doesn't talk to me properly any more. She will never ask me how I am and always asks me - did I hear from X,Y,Z (my brothers)?

My schedule in work hardly allowed me to sleep over the weekend. My schedule didn't even allow me a sit down meal.

I'm just so sick of it.and her too. She won't ask me how I am. She saw I was ill and her only concern is if I heard from my brothers. It's extremely warped.

Mine was the same. Its horrible. Really shows you where you feature on her list of love and priorities.

Sounds awful OP.

You are an adult so can chose what kind of life you want going forward.

Maybe find a good therapist many are shit to help you deal with it...?

You can do this!

She only really talks to me whenever she's kicking back about something or complaining or whenever she wants something from me or asking for my brothers. She will never talk to me properly and ask me how I am. Other times it's just silence from her. It's so draining and it's depressing too.

Today she asked me can you still order online from other countries. She was likely hinting at making an online order to somewhere outside of the UK. I used to help her before with stuff. She doesn't even have a bank account or card and it was likely she wanted me to get her something but it would be coming out of my bank account. I explained that it's not worth it any more die to all of the extra charges and taxes and duty and import stuff. I know how this stuff usually works and usually places outside of the UK will remove their own charges just for our own charges to be added. Sometimes it's just not worth it. I don't buy much outside of the UK any more since Brexit.

She even started complaining saying - but 'what if I pay'. She doesn't even have a bank account to pay anything. I know she usually pays me back but usually in cash but it doesn't usually cover the initial sting. She never explained to me what she wanted either. Sometimes if you can get it locally or even an alternative locally, ordering from abroad doesn't make any sense.

I just had to refuse her request and shut it down. It's so depressing. She doesn't talk to me properly any more unless she wants something.