So elderly relatives are 3 hours drive from nearest family. One of the couple very keen to move, the other (the only driver) is starting to become cognitively frail, but kind of "mostly here" still. But also has (the more severe kind of) continence issues, and is very very anxious about being any distance from a loo.
Thus they do not want to be driven because of lack of privacy requesting loo stops (and always used to travel with a bucket just in case, which is a nono if they aren't alone) But they are now too cognitively frail to drive the distance alone.
This alas is becoming a huge stumbling block to the move - which probably needs to happen soon while they can still process what is happening.
One option might be the train - it's not a mainline all the way and I m not sure they have been on a train in the last 40 years, and there's a lot of fear of the unknown (incredibly restricted lives especially since covid).
Alternatively - something like a winnebago? Can you use the toilet when it's driving along? Hire a small private coach???? (Luckily they are not short of money, although they are horrified by extravagance).
I am kind of thinking aloud here, but if anyone has any ideas, however left field.... fire away 🙏🙏
Oh and I have already thought they could perhaps do a 'practice' train journey just between their town and the next station, but there is a LOT of resistance to overcome -to even discussing anything that isn't the daily round of armchair with tv, drive round the block to pick up shopping, armchair and tv, bed 😬😬