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Elderly parents

The start of the decline?

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Beansandcheesearegood · 24/02/2025 22:20

DF is 85 he had pneumonia 6 months ago and was in hospital. Whilst there he was found to have high cholesterol, a partial blocked artery and ultimately angina. Since then he's not been great and under going lots if tests. He also has memory issues and thyroid problems. He's on statins and after a 'funny turn' he's been in hospital for the day for tests- outcome is increase statins and further investigations.

I feel like we've at the cusp of something. My dm is 83 abd doing her best but he seems to have good abd had dad's. Gp wants thyroid sorted before memory clinic appointment so it's a waiting game. Parents very I dependent. Siblings and I all have POA in place.

Any advice on anything else we should do? Feel pretty helpless but want to help. They say theyre fine, I'm worried about his memory/ mood but also physically about the dizzy 'funny turn'/ statins etc.

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AInightingale · 25/02/2025 16:43

Afraid I don't have any advice but the 'turns' sound as if they may be the precursors to stroke, especially if his cholesterol is high and his arteries already struggling. My own father had two very mild 'TIA' type episodes before having a major stroke, he was mid-80s. That tends to be the pattern. Your dad is clearly not 'fine' but they sound fiercely independent!

Beansandcheesearegood · 25/02/2025 21:31

@AInightingale thank you, after more conversations it turns out that's exactly it! Dr told them it was TIA ....

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AInightingale · 26/02/2025 17:23

Crikey OP. That's worrying for you.
It does put him at higher risk of a major stroke so you do have to prepare your mum for that possibility.
It's just the way it goes for many older men unfortunately - their health does seem to break down more quickly than women's when in their 80s. It can also cause dementia-like symptoms, or vascular type dementia can trigger stroke - it's a bit of a chicken and egg situation. What does the doctor advise?

Beansandcheesearegood · 26/02/2025 21:53

@AInightingale thank you. Dr is booking him in to some sort if 'stroke clinic' in a few months but has immediately increased his statins for now. He's been told not to drive for 4 weeks too. Siblings and I have POA so all in place if/ when needed but honestly the independence I always admired is now turning to stubbornness, I this he especially fears being a dependent on anyone and my mum is going along with this idea that they can do everything themselves.

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