My brother is married to a very coercive controlling woman. My brother met this woman online, well educated and seemed to make him happy. The tides started turning when a family member died and they were staying at my parents and she got drunk and started fighting verbally with my brother at 0430 in my parents house. We found out she wanted to phone the police and said my brother had been violent he hadn’t at all as we were in the house.
Over the years the tension has got worse. As I have supported my parents she then turned her venom onto me. My SIL is off Indian descent, my husband is Arab. She is claiming my parents are racist we have 2 kids - they might have had their woes at the beginning but they love him to pieces. My brother and her can’t have kids. She refuses my brother to see our parents unless it fits into her schedule. She has contacted ex boyfriends of mine to get “dirt” on me, contacted my husbands family making claims that I tried to get my brother killed by my ex family?! My brother has told her everything about our lives and she is now threatening us that we have slandered her name etc. my brother is so hoodwinked and scared she has reported him to the police saying he hit her which is untrue and he sleeps in a car because she won’t allow him in the house. He’s so scared as supposedly she has all this stuff on us, he doesn’t want his marriage to end even though she won’t allow him to visit my parents by himself and he can only be there 2 hours. We have seen her behaviour, we have blocked them on calls etc. We have tried to do a background check on her. She is threatening to take us all to court for racism, lies, fraud the list is endless. I have kept all digusting rants she has made to me, all messages my brother has sent not sure what rights we have as a family. My father is extremely close to death and this woman I believe is waiting for him to die so she can try and get either divorced to get money via my brother or she just wants to try and scare us.